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AIBU?

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Who’s in the right?

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LoopyLou1981 · 02/11/2019 08:35

We have 2 children who get up anywhere between 5.30 and 6.30ish.

Parent A gets up for work at 5.20 four times a week
Parent B gets the children to nursery for 7.30/7.45 on those mornings

Parent A gets the child up and the eldest to school on their week day ‘off’

Parent A thinks a lie in each at the weekend is fair
Parent B thinks they should get both lie ins at weekend as they deal with getting the kids up more during the week.

Who would you agree with?

OP posts:

adaline · 02/11/2019 09:22

They should get one lie-in each.

Otherwise it's not fair.

GabriellaMontez · 02/11/2019 09:23

at parent b.

Why does he feel so superior? Are they his children?

Hermanfromguesswho · 02/11/2019 09:31

Parent A gets up at 5.20 every morning. Parent B sometimes gets up as late as 6.30... even if both lie ins should go to one parent surely parent A is the obvious choice anyway!!
One each is more than fair!!

OoohRhubarbLetsGo · 02/11/2019 09:36

One each.

Beautiful3 · 02/11/2019 09:36

One day each is fair. Make sure yours is saturday and his is sunday. Otherwise he may sabotage your lie in!

73Sunglasslover · 02/11/2019 09:39

Parent A and Parent B should each get a lie in. They are clearly both tired. People need differing amounts of sleep so this should be more about 'what do we each need' rather than 'who got up earliest'.

JenniferM1989 · 02/11/2019 09:45

Why is he wanting both lie ins? On some of the weekdays you work, he may get to sleep until 6:30 but you're up at 5:20 and I assume 5:30-6:30 on the day you don't go to work? What time is he getting up on your day off work? Does he work?

meow1989 · 02/11/2019 09:51

Dh leaves for work at 6am 5 days a week. I get up with ds for work/nursery 3 days a week at about 7.30, the other 2 days I have ds with me. At the weekend we both get a lie in one day. So one will get up with ds at 7.30 for a couple of hours then if we haven't got plans then the other gets up whilst the first has an extra hour nap. Works well for us and seems fair.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 02/11/2019 09:58

Does your DH get a lie in on your day off when you're up with the children as well? If so he's being even more unreasonable.

user1493413286 · 02/11/2019 10:01

You’ve described me and DH; we take it in turns although not sure if you’re saying that parent B gets up in the night with the kids so then it would depend on how much that is.

camelfinger · 02/11/2019 10:02

FungusTheToegyman · 02/11/2019 10:31

Definitely Parent A.

Parent B may have been getting the kids up more during the week, but it's not like parent A has been getting a lie in!

SpookilyBadOooooooh · 02/11/2019 10:39

One each. It’s about a relaxing sleep/lie in. Not about who looks after the children the most.

You Saturday
Him Sunday IF he’s let you have a proper lie in on the Saturday. If not send the kids in

Fifthtimelucky · 02/11/2019 11:18

I agree with one lie-in each. I'd be putting the children to bed later though, so that they didn't wake up so early!

Norma27 · 02/11/2019 15:18

When my first daughter was little I would leave the house every day before dh and dd were up. I had to get up anytime between 2 and 5am. Dh was up early too and would drop dd at nursery as soon as it opened at 7am. I had Fridays off would still be up early. I can’t remember what happened with lie ins but if he demanded both of them, or if I had there would have been serious words!

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