Long one sorry
Partner of 5 years and father to our 16 month old son
History of lying about pre booked trips for example working extra hours on weekends last Christmas while DS was very young and not sleeping well to secretly save for a holiday to Las Vegas which he hid from me for months and months only telling me two weeks before and going leaving me with no childcare or even a dog
walker. Promises not to do anything like that again and then one day asks me if I want to go to Belgium for the weekend. A cheap deal his mates have he tells me I NEED A BREAK he says only one thing we have DS and he knows this I can't go. Of course I'm not stupid I know he knows I can't go and that it's a trip for him and his selfish arse but he stands in front of me telling me I'm mad. later find out it's booked for him and his mates to the point the sleelping arrangements have been made. He didn't go once I found out.
Fast forward to two weeks ago and he asks to go Leeds the weekend to follow his football team (he asks because he has a lot of things come up next month and I'm always alone with DS) I said fine. Next day a ticket arrives dates two days previous so he fake bloody asked me. Feel like such a cunt.
Anyway yesterday I get a chest infection that's developed but it's so bad I'm floored and considering now dragging DS to the emergency room. Partner knew this as was woken up by me all night im clearly really unwell. this morning he gets up to leave at 6am knowing DS is going to wake and I'm in bed not having slept and gets ready saying "do you not want me to go" I said that it wasn't fair to ask me that as I know he wants to go and I'm worried he will be in a mood all day with us. He has gone it's taken me an hour to write this as I'm so unwell but I just needed to get this out. If he cared for me he would have stayed ? or did I need to ask? I just feel like taking everything into consideration I needed him to give a fuck.
Thanks for reading if you managed to get to the bottom.