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What does this mean? DH acting out of character

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Clumsywith2leftfeet · 01/11/2019 23:23

DH and I been together 9 years, no behaviour like this in the past, maybe some borderline emotional abuse but unsure if that has been intentional (stonewalling, walking on egg shells at times around him, threatening to leave me when things get tough and maybe a little more).

Tonight whilst I was laying in bed feeling unwell we had an argument about me wanting to spend a bit more time together when he's home as we've gone from a lot of hours in the day together (he was my carer for 6+ years) to him having to return to work for financial reasons, although the reasons I need care haven't changed we can't afford for him to not work.

So during this argument I rolled onto my front and not sure why but he took me by the shoulders rolled me onto my back (presumably to face him?) And I felt pinned down as he held me in that position whilst he shouted at me. I froze and felt scared but not sure if that was due to his actions or my previous marriage being violently abusive.

As out of character for him is this probably a case of everything getting too much with him worrying about my health at work? or is this a sign of escalating behaviour after the emotional things I've mentioned?

Would appreciate insight of MNetters

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Advicewel · 01/11/2019 23:44

You felt scared, that be enough to call time on your marriage, unless he was planning on therapy there's a chance it could esculate but woukd you be willing to stick about to find out

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