Had a strange encounter with a friend about a month ago.
We've been friends for years, all that time both being married, however, he's now divorced (under a year) and I'm now a widow (over a year).
Anyway we had a chance night, nothing major happening, just some very nice snogging. We left it as a bit of a drink induced episode. Saw him again two weeks later in a big group of friends. I had thought it all through and was ready to see him and continue just a friendship. He brought it up, said how lovely the kisses were and we planned a meet up to pursue it. But we both got cold feet mid-week and settled on meeting just as friends as we always would have done in the past.
In the end it was a great evening, we talked for hours (as we always do) and discussed what was happening between us and agreed best to continue our friendship and not turn it romantic. He felt he couldn't deal with getting emotionally involved and also admitted he felt awkward because of his relationship with my dead husband.
I felt very positive about how we left it and thought it was the right thing to do.
However I keep thinking about him. I don't want to push him, especially as he's been clear. But there's a part of me that does want to push a bit. AIBU or just plain silly to think something could still happen between us?