I've recently started training to be a volunteer with a local project offering support to women with MH issues. I'm attending training sessions run by a female NHS psychologist who's maybe in her early 40s. I'm older by 15 years or so.
I'm really struggling with the trainer's humour, which is almost entirely based on sexual innuendo. Yesterday I made a random hand gesture when talking about something. It wasn't a rude gesture, just a small movement to illustrate something I was saying. She started laughing and couldn't stop. I and the other volunteers sat there looking at each other. We couldn't work out what it was I'd said that was so funny. Eventually she calmed down and said she'd explain to me later, privately. When there was a break she took me aside and explained that my hand movement was a gesture illustrating a sexual activity. I'm not naive, I know certain hand gestures represent jerking off etc, but this wasn't anything like that. When I asked what it was she thought I was illustrating she wouldn't explain except to say: 'It's too rude!' This is just the latest and most bizarre incident in a whole series. Surely a professional psychologist should be able to talk about anything, including sexual things, without embarrassment or thinking them 'rude'?
I'm not the only one to find this childish and irritating: there's and awful lot of eye-rolling when she goes off on an 'Oooh, missis' number. There's no doubt that she's clever and knows her stuff but she doesn't seem to have much emotional intelligence and I suspect that quite a few of us are looking at her and wondering whether she needs help.
Are we unusual in not liking innuendo? Do you think we need to say something?