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Needing advice regarding mil

7 replies

Happysnappyboo · 01/11/2019 08:22

Just after some advice. Been with dh 8 years in total. Got pregnant last year. Always got on great with pil until got pregnant (more specifically when we found out gender this started). It's mainly mil but fil is being funny by proxy and doesn't want to do anything to upset mil so is very distant. All started with skitty remarks which I could ignore. But since having dc it has turned into full on temper tantrums (to the extent of she threw dc toys because she wasn't getting the reaction she wanted from dh). She has said and behaved in a truly unacceptable manner. For example saying dc has 'bitch face'. To me no one should say that about a baby never mind dc own grandma. Last week husband had an argument with his mum about other behaviours and she couldn't see what she had done wrong so I suppose I'm asking for advice on what to do from here. Aibu to say I don't want to go round alone anymore? Just go with partner. I'm really struggling to forgive and get over it because it's happening so regularly now (every few weeks new issues with mil) and causing arguments between me and dh.

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Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 01/11/2019 12:53

Get your husband to sort her out or tell him you and lo will not be having anything more to do with them..and mean it!

SmileyGiraffe · 01/11/2019 13:06

Why are you going by yourself? Only see them when he's there. They're his family, not yours.

frazzledasarock · 01/11/2019 13:10

I wouldn’t be going to in laws without DP unless I had a great relationship with them apart from DP.

She sounds awful, don’t go to them without DH there. Even then I’d skip visiting as much as possible and keep DC away too. If she’s being mean to DC why force your presence on the batshit crazy?

Witchinaditch · 01/11/2019 14:31

Don’t go round at all. Send your partner and dd. You don’t have to see her at all.

GettingABitDesperateNow · 01/11/2019 14:42

What do you think the issue is? Is it a cultural thing because one gender (opposite of DC) is more valued? If so I wouldn't let my DC go there either, I wouldn't want them growing up around that crap as one day they will understand. And if you ever have a DC of the opposite sex then the different ways they are treated will be really obvious

theWarOnPeace · 01/11/2019 14:45

Why are you doing this to yourself, go NC with them. If your DP doesn’t want to cut ties that’s up to him, but they’re deranged and I wouldn’t be having them around my child.

EileenAlanna · 01/11/2019 14:58

Don't visit them at all. If they can at least pretend to behave themselves in your home then you might be able to tolerate occasional visits from them. Your DH has shown he's not prepared to put up with this crap (good for him) so draw the line now. Your DC deserves it.

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