To feel like I'm boring

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I never make friends easily. I love a night out but unless I drink quite a bit I feel quite uncomfortable and a bit like a lemon (I don't dance, I don't sing).

I wouldn't say I'm boring, I'm just quite reserved. I meet a lot of people who are just so comfortable and outgoing around people they've just met and I'm just not, if I try and be then I end up not being myself and I don't like that.

Anyway, I'm just getting myself worked up - got a social night out tomorrow with DP (+ his friends/their partners) and I'm pregnant (so no alcohol for me to make me loosen up!) and I just know I'm going to be sat awkwardly in the corner while everyone else is drinking & laughing etc.

Ugh am I being ridiculous??

A lot of people feel the same OP...that's why so many people drink! I find that it's easier if I focus on making sure everyone else is happy.

Just talk to others about themselves. That makes people like you.

If there are going to be other women there, chances are there will probably be at least one mother there. If you have a bump, it's likely people will ask about it. So your pregnancy could actually be a good ice-breaker. Hope you have a good time!

You’re not boring! Just because the people you know are different it doesn’t make them better. I spent my life feeling awkward, shy and boring. It took a long time to accept myself and love who I am

Sounds like you’re an introvert. Me too. (We are awesome by the way). That means you prefer deep conversation to shallow chitchat and although sociable it is draining to spend a lot of time with strangers. If you want to understand your type better maybe do some reading on the Myers-Brighs personality test there is loads of free info online.

Anyway a night out with DH and his friends and their partners does sound really dull. Doesn’t mean you’re boring though, means you’re stuck at a boring event. Good luck maybe as fun prep watch that Friends episode about Monica’s work laugh here’s a clip. m.youtube.com/watch?v=7Cl_wJzlTZI