once upon a chat

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need general guidance. Was with partner (both 31) for nearly 3 years, then they wanted to split and we both agreed to chat after 2 months to see how things are (that's exactly how we defined it). AIBU to think that if they had any desire to really chat then they wouldn't sleep with anyone else?

I'd think if they had any interest in saving the relationship then they wouldn't have split up.

I'd interpret the 'chat' as being a sort of courtesy to check you are ok. I'd think it was a break and they would be sleeping with other people otherwise what would be the point of splitting?

I'd also not be chatting with someone who broke up with me, because I'm not a Plan B if the grass isn't greener.

I think you might be building up this chat as meaning more than it does - I think your partner wanted to split and wanted a 2 months' break from you before they had to contemplate speaking to you again, and the chat was both the way to achieve that, and a way for them to feel less guilty.

Sorry - I really think you would be better letting this one go completely.

They? Is there more than one of them? 😳

OP is being gender neutral to avoid bias.