To not take ds out tonight

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Diy2019 · 31/10/2019 16:03

There's a Halloween spooky walk on at a nearby park this evening (20 mins drive away). I planned on bringing ds (6) there to meet his cousins there.
I have postnatal depression and as part of it I seem to have acquired a fear of leaving the house. I started meds 3 weeks ago and have been making good progress since, but woke up this morning feeling down and dreading leaving the house this evening .
I'm thinking of not bringing him and just staying in with a movie, but I feel guilty that ds is going to miss out because of me.
AIBU to just stay at home?

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TheFlis12345 · 31/10/2019 16:04

Can someone else take him?

ihearttc · 31/10/2019 16:13

Ive been where you are. Take him. Once you get over the hurdle of actually getting out I promise you will feel better.

YouJustDoYou · 31/10/2019 16:18

Ive been where you are. Take him. Once you get over the hurdle of actually getting out I promise you will feel better

^^This. I suffer badly from anxiety and depression. If people didn't invite the kids and I out, I would stay in bed whilst they play around me. I just can't face leaving the house. But If I'm invited out, I'll force myself to go for their sake because otherwise they absolutely would miss out. I spent a childhood never going out and don't want the same for them.

OhioOhioOhio · 31/10/2019 16:22

Yes. You should go. I hate Halloween. Always have. Plan a nice bath or glass of wine or something for when you get back.

Flev · 31/10/2019 16:27

Could his cousins (and their adult) call by to meet you and travel there together? It might make it slightly less daunting to get out if you're with someone.

satanstoenailsandwich · 31/10/2019 16:29

You must push through it for both your sakes.

Advicewel · 31/10/2019 16:29

You'll be grabbing your coat once that door starts knocking. Go out for a walk, trust everyone when they tell you to go out, you'll feel better for it later. Then go for a bath grab headphones and play some feel good songs and go to bed

TeeBee · 31/10/2019 16:30

I've also been in your position so I sympathise. But still go. You may well dread it but you'll get through it. Chances are it won't be as bad as you feel it might. You'll feel worse about yourself if you disappoint your DS.

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Diy2019 · 31/10/2019 17:38

Thanks all, I know you're right and will push through it. I'll have a big bar of chocolate for when I get back

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OhioOhioOhio · 31/10/2019 22:14

How did you get on?

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