I know I'm not... Drink driving

[Sparklfairy]

Ive been on a few dates with a guy, really liked him. Although in his mid 20s, he has a successful business with very easy hours and likes to show off and 'flash the cash' so to speak (this is relevant).

The other day he messaged me at around 2pm with a photo of a pub, 'guess where I am'. Fair enough, midweek day drinking isn't my thing but if that's what you want to do with your free time then fine. Had a few messages back and forth and then at half 6 he said 'ive got to teach haha' (fitness instructor). I said when? He said, in an hour, I've had 9 pints

I was because his work was miles away. when pressed if he would be driving he said yes it would be fine. Had a bit of back and forth with me saying don't be ridiculous and him saying it was fine.

I ended the conversation with 'whatever, don't kill anyone' and him saying 'i won't I promise' and then text when he arrived saying he was ok. I ignored these.

For context, although obviously this is a stupid thing to do anyway, I was a victim of a drunk driver a few years ago and he knows my zero tolerance stance on this. Yet he was messaging like he found it funny, bragging almost. I don't even know if he had as many pints as he said as how could he work after 9 in 4.5 hours?! Id be dead!

Anyway, didn't get in touch with him and he messaged the next morning saying how are you. I just sent a back. When pressed I explained it wasn't on what he did. I didn't say everything I was thinking (you're an absolute twat) or lose my shit, just stated facts. He ignored my message for a day then sent an arsey one later saying he didn't like my tone and I was out of order! Then blocked ME.

Bastard. Obviously he's blocked back but it's the fucking entitlement. 'ill do what I want, fuck everyone else, I don't care I'm putting lives at risk and don't you dare call me out'.

I just wish I'd known him a bit longer to have known what car he drives and his number plate

He's a fucking idiot
100% agree with you

YANBU, he's a complete idiot.

If you knew he was drink driving and knew where he was driving to, then you should have called the police and given them the location and time he would be driving in so they could stop him.
I've done that. The police attended. He was arrested.

You dodged a bullet, let's hope he gets pulled over by the law before he kills whilst heavily over the limit. Utter wankstain!

Get together what info you do have of him and give to local police.they can find his car details.
You have done all you can then.
As you said,Yanbu ,he is an idiot.

Do you actually think he did drink drive and work after 9 fucking pints! Jesus that's so many wrongs I can't believe it!

What can you do? Alert police but they'll not be watching him 24/7 obviously.

You're well rid, but this knob is still driving around!

Horrible man, horrible attitude. Agree with pp you should have phoned the police and they could have pulled him. Not like there's anything to lose if you were binning him anyway.

You can still report him to the police and pass on his messages, whilst they can't do anything about him for this last drink driving indecent they can look up his vehicle and flag it so that he is always pulled over for "random " breath tests and vehicle checks. They will catch him out sooner rather than later

I actually don't know anything. I have a copper friend and based on what I know he said it's not enough. He doesn't have a work base but travels to various venues, I don't even know what his company is called believe me when my sense of justice takes hold I'm like a dog with a bone but I've got nothing. That's what really sticks. I guess I'm feeling responsible that he's still on the road and if I'd handled it differently maybe I could have stayed around long enough to get enough info on him.

Shame you didn’t report him at the time but I can see you didn’t have much information. It’s pretty easy to find out about people these days, especially if they have a big ego and are all over SM. Personally I’d find a way to shop him, but then I am bitter and twisted about drink driving having lost a very close relative who was killed by a chancer who thought she’d be fine with a few drinks inside her, just like him.

YouokHun the thing is he told me as he was leaving. So if I'd managed to get hold of the police, told them the pub, and by some miracle they got there sometime in the next hundred years, I have no idea what car he drives. What could they do? I don't/didn't have him on SM.

There's also the thing in the back of your mind when put on the spot like that (given I don't know him well) - 'he must be lying/bragging/exaggerating, no one in their right mind would drive to work on nine pints!'

Fwiw I have reported someone I know on the non emergency line for driving without insurance and he drives while high. All car make and model details and numberplate. I loosely keep in touch with him and he hasn't been pulled over once months after I reported, and he drives a lot.

YouokHun and I'm so sorry about your relative drink driving really wrecks lives and I can't stand that this entitled twat is on the road

Karma will catch up with him eventually. Let's just hope it's not at the cost of someone else at the same time.

You're definitely best off well away from him.

wow sorry how old is this guy?!?! drink driving and then talking about going to work after 9 pints is like the stupid shit people brag about when they are about 18.

YANBU, he sounds like a total idiot and you're better off without him

Oh, this is terrible, he sounds like somebody who really will kill someome, some day. I hope it'll just be himself.
Two or three is bad enough, but nine pints is outrageous.
Good for you for not going along with it, and telling him so.

attillathenun 26 I think? I'm 31 and put his bragging down to immaturity, but actually, he's a grown man who thinks he's the big 'I am' and there really is no excuse.

Even if he doesn't give a shit about other people, I'm pretty sure a driving ban would fuck up his work royally. Getting Ubers everywhere is not practical in our neck of the woods. Not to mention that 9 pints in 4.5 hours would (should?) probably end in a prison sentence.

Utter twat. And I'm annoyed at myself for being so angry still when he probably hasn't given it or me a second thought since blocking me. It's a horrible feeling to know that eventually something bad will happen and he will carry on until it does.

If he's the sort to drive after 9 pints, I bet he would probably drive with no license or insurance either.
I know a lot of people who could drink 9 pints in 4.5hrs- but not before work or driving. (Although some would drive happily the next morning)

@Sparklfairy I know these things are tricky in the moment and it’s easy to say what one should have done in retrospect, and you had nothing to go on. And thanks for the flowers.

I just saw this on Facebook, I’m not a lover of Facebook but it’s one to share with the next idiot who thinks they are safe behind the wheel after a few drinks...