Albu to stop helping ex

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So bit of a long storries apologies. I've never posted so hope this is right place

So when I was 18 I met man 38 I had very little money he helped me a lot with living coast and also after a serrious acodenamed helped me .

We both ended up on hard drugs he was already doing them I slowly followed. After 10 years we both got clean I get pregnant. Then he starts using

I begged him to leave told him I would help asked him nicely but just wouldn't go. I ended up calling 101 police to have him removed. I feel very guilty as he has no family apart from ex who helps him a lot and 2 other children so.he was made homeless.

Because of this I helped him a lot with.money gave him half of what I get.he is now in supported living gets small amount of money but can get more.if he gets off his lazy ass.

I have asked him many times to do something he just won't so I've now told him I will no longer be able to afford to help him
He's got very angry and nasty. Calling me selfish etc

I look after our son almost 3 by myself as he's not allowed unsupervised visits ( ss and I agree) . So aibu to stop helping him now it's been 6 months now ! Please help i do t want to be nasty but I haven't even got.my hair cut in 5 months my son doesn't suffer I make sure he has good food drinks and days out etc

Sorry was supposed to say serrious accident.

He helped you at the start but he’s leeching off you now .
You owe him nothing . Just be careful as he may turn nasty .

Stop helping. You are NOT being nasty. If he’s not allowed to see your son and SS agree. Just cut contact. If he becomes nasty again call 101 for advice and to report it.
Do not think you’re being nasty. He doesn’t deserve your help and needs to learn to help himself. You concentrate on yourself and your son!

So he started a relationship with a barely adult women 20 years his junior: got her hooked on hard drugs; got her pregnant; started using again; had to be removed by police; expects her to fund him with money she should be spending on herself and their child, the child he doesn’t contribute a penny towards raising?

What do you think OP? What would you tell your friend if it was her?

Change your number don’t answer his calls.. he will give up and find someone else to bother, he is not a good example for your child. You are not being nasty, he isn’t good for either of you..

You don't describe your ex as having disabilities so if he is unable to hold down a job I guess this is because he is using. This will be where your money is going - money that is given to you to support your son. Stay strong. If he is not adding to your sons life and wellbeing but taking away from it then cut him loose.

Thank you for all your messages. Really do appreciate and totally agree with what you are all saying. Really needed to check to see if I was as he really makes me feel crazy sometime. The years of lying have made me feel completely crazy thank you

You need to cut him out of your life. The guy is a parasite, he preyed on a teenager 20 years younger than himself, got her hooked on drugs and then pregnant, and does nothing now for his child....you owe this waste of space absolutely zero.

Unburden yourself OP, the only people you are responsible for are your child and yourself.