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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To be annoyed about open door?

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Savethedramaforyourmama · 31/10/2019 09:45

First time poster, long time lurker.

I just came downstairs with my newborn after showering etc to find the front door wide open and two parcels left in the hall.

When my husband left this morning he came back in to grab something for our other child and I think he must have not shut the door properly. It sticks a bit and needs a good slam to close. I was downstairs at that point but didn’t go near the front door so didn’t see if it was closed or not. I guess the parcelforce chap then came along when I was in the shower/drying hair (so I didn’t hear), saw the door was slightly open so pushed it to leave the parcels there. No idea how long it was open, I was upstairs for about half an hour.

I felt completely freaked out that someone had been in my house and that anyone could have walked in while the door was ajar.

Phoned my husband and he thinks I am being unreasonable because a) it was an accident (I would say careless) and b) I should be annoyed at the parcelforce person for leaving the door open rather than him.

AIBU? Nothing has been taken and no harm done but I still feel freaked out! I realise I may be overreacting though.

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GeneHuntLover · 31/10/2019 09:57

I'd be bloody furious with your husband, why isn't he locking the door when he leaves if you're still upstairs?!

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Savethedramaforyourmama · 31/10/2019 10:01

It’s the kind of door that locks when you shut it behind you, so no need for him to lock in fairness. We only double lock it when we leave the house.

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LadyFatCat · 31/10/2019 10:04

That wouldn’t bother me at all. No harm was done and you got your parcels. The delivery guy probably thought you left it open as you were in the garden or something and didn’t want to lock you out. Obviously if you live somewhere where there’s lots of crime it’s a bit different but I live in a small town where most people know each other and I would not be at all bothered by that.

sillysmiles · 31/10/2019 10:07

You have your parcels and the door is now closed and nothing happened.
In reality you are probably lucky that your husband left the door ajar or your wouldn't have gotten your parcels.

HeresMe · 31/10/2019 10:10

Just a word of warning your door isn't locked if you just shut it, it is done with a latch which prevents anyone from simply opening it, but a good hard shove would open it, get into the habit of locking it properly when you are in.

underground76 · 31/10/2019 10:15

It was a one-off mistake. He clearly didn't do it on purpose and I doubt it will happen again, so about you just move on rather than bearing a grudge about a minor error than anyone, including you, could have made? You're massively overreacting. Are you always like this?

MereDintofPandiculation · 31/10/2019 10:15

Yes, it's a nasty feeling, but no harm done. Definitely not the parcelForce chap's fault - he was doing something nice - his alternatives were to not deliver, or to leave outside.

Most burglars/sneak thieves would rather not have to overcome a householder so they wouldn't come straight in - they'd be doing a bit of looking around and listening to check that the coast was clear.

Gardai · 31/10/2019 10:17

Just check the door in future before you go upstairs - I always do just incase its not shut properly when people are coming and going...accidents happen !

SleepingStandingUp · 31/10/2019 10:17

I'd kindly say its hormones and the motion of having your newborn at home. Your natural protectiveness will make this feel much worse, and being in the shower too perhaps, than had you been home with someone else and just in the kitchen say

GeneHuntLover · 31/10/2019 10:19

are you always like this what a shitty comment. I wouldn't be best pleased if my door was left open, anything could happen and yes I know it didn't but it could. Do you know how many burglaries happen when the occupants are in the house?

Seems I'm in the minority though

VanGoghsDog · 31/10/2019 10:33

I suppose you're not being unreasonable to be a bit annoyed, I think I'd feel slightly odd having been naked upstairs when the door was open.

But, you know, these things happen. You are being unreasonable to find it so annoying that you have to start a thread about it.

Just get on with your day and remind everyone that the door sticks so needs a good shove, or get it fixed.

VanGoghsDog · 31/10/2019 10:34

Do you know how many burglaries happen when the occupants are in the house?

No. How many?

AtrociousCircumstance · 31/10/2019 10:37

Your husband is being a dick. He should have just said “Oh shit - sorry! I’ll make sure it’s closed from now on.” Simple as that.

Some people can’t bear to admit they’ve ever done anything wrong. It’s a very rigid, childish quality.

HeronLanyon · 31/10/2019 10:42

Sand down the door so it doesn’t stick!
If it happened a lot then I’d be angry at carelessness but a one-off accidental thing isn’t anything to be angry about surely?
I would be a bit worried for a moment as to what could have happened but I’d then just go get some sandpaper/or a plane if it is more significant.

Beveren · 31/10/2019 10:49

Meh. Obviously your husband didn't intend to do this, I wouldn't even have bothered to phone him but would mention it when he got back in the evening.

Ferretyone · 31/10/2019 11:05

"It was an accident" - get the door fixed so that it does not stick?

@Savethedramaforyourmama

GeneHuntLover · 31/10/2019 11:09

VanGoghsDog around 3 in every 10 according to a quick look at some stats, I personally wouldn't take the risk myself. But it's not just burglaries, I wouldn't like a random stranger in my house if I was upstairs showering - can't think many people would

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Savethedramaforyourmama · 31/10/2019 11:21

Am I always like this? yes, probably!

We should get the door fixed, consider it added to the long list of things to fix in an old house!

Yes, I think it is that I was upstairs and with a baby - if I’d been downstairs and noticed/the delivery person had arrived I wouldn’t have been bothered. I was annoyed but over it now! I’m well aware it is a non event compared to some but aren’t most threads about the minor day to day annoyances of life!

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VanGoghsDog · 31/10/2019 11:28

I personally wouldn't take the risk myself.

Well, they didn't "take the risk", leaving the door open was an accident.

I did it at my DP's house yesterday. The gardener rang the doorbell so I opened the door and spoke to him, shut the door. About an hour later he rang it again and when I went to open it, it was open, it hadn't latched. I didn't know as the door has a curtain over it so when I went past it I'd not noticed it was a few inches open, and in that time I had gone upstairs and got dressed. Obviously now I know it needs pushing hard.

I didn't take a risk, I made a mistake. I forgot to mention it to dp when he came back, though I did tell him the gardener had been and I'd made him coffee.

There are a lot of burglaries where I live and people report having someone come in their kitchen and take handbags and car keys, and then cars. So I keep my door locked and don't take risks. But we all make mistakes now and then!

Myimaginaryfamiliarhasfleas · 31/10/2019 11:37

You probably caught him off guard if you phoned him at work to bollock him.

You are very understandably overreacting. You've said your piece, don't drag it out and have more words tonight. It won't happen again.

Mylittlepony374 · 31/10/2019 11:50

I'd be pissed off. I know because my husband has done similar and I was seriously annoyed.

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