To get present from ds for his new brother on dads side.

[Mamabear144]

Ds is nearly 2 and has recently had a new brother on his dads side, he's meeting his brother next week and I'm unsure as to whether I should have a present from ds or not when he goes or whether that is his dads job? I don't want to look weird if I did but also don't want to look bitter if I dont. Please help.

I personally think it's a lovely gesture

I think it would be a lovely idea

It’s his dad’s job though it’s a kind thought. You won’t look bitter! Fast work on his dad’s part so an adjustment for all of you but I wouldn’t worry about trying to appear in a certain way

I'd get a teddy bear and a card. It is s lovely, thoughtful thing to do, but, more importantly, it is showing your son thst the addition of of a sibling is a wonderful thing that he gets to be a part of. Send a text to.his dad saying your ds wanted to choose a present for the baby if you feel you need to make it clear it is from ds and not you.

You sound lovely. I agree with above, it’s his dads job to do but it’s a really lovely gesture on your part.

DSDs mum helped her pick out some outfits for baby DS. Don’t think she had much option as DSD is 8 and was desperate to buy clothes all through my pregnancy!
It’s different for your DS being so young but it’s a lovely gesture of goodwill and I’m sure a small token gift would be appreciated and not taken as weird. New baby’s mum could be fretting about baby being accepted as a sibling etc (this was a real worry for me as DSDs mum initially didn’t take the baby news all that gracefully shall we say, and to her credit has pulled herself together for DSDs sake)

You should get a present if you want to. when my granddaughter was born her siblings on her dads side got her presents and she got them presents. They all love each other to bits.

I've been trying to show ds pictures of babies and explain about siblings but he is still so young so I thought maybe if I got a teddy and a card and just signed it from ds then maybe it'll help him understand a little better, he loves to give presents a make people happy. I don't want to overstep though as we don't get on the best.

Could be an olive branch? I’d like to think if I was the new mum I would take it as such

I would, it's a lovely thought.

I would.

Thank you for the help everyone!