Understand totally why people throw it all in the bin!

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Have a local facebook page for regifting baby/childrens items. Have posted several things recently due to potential housemove ans the likelyhood of having no more children! I can not belive the amou t of times ive agreed a winner of the item only to sit in lile a numpty for them to collect then i have e to chase them to collect. I gifted a recent item that gained alot of interest so in the interest of fairness i put all the numbers into a generator and it was picked at random. The amount of people who contacted me aftee the fact to say they were gutted they didn't win or even see the post in the 1st place was staggering. Im at my wits end with it all. But i also would hate to just bin the lot. Theres not many chariry shops near me so thats not a option. And even after they have collected it not a word of thanks........AIBU to think a simple thank you text the next day is too much to ask for?

Spelling terrible. Currently nursing a baby to sleep!

Ugh people are so rude so often! I'd start putting rules on it OP. You pick a winner, that winner has 24 hours to pick it up or it'll go to the next name on the winning list. Etc etc.

Alternatively put a small cost on it, people are weirdly less likely to mess about if an item actually costs something.

Do you have a women’s refuge near you instead?

Try charging a small amount of money for things, whenever I've given things away for free people mess about but they've always arrived on time when I've charged money. I've also offered other things for free to people who have turned up to pay, or told them I don't want the money after they've arrived.

Agree, charge a fiver and you eliminate a lot of the time wasting toss pots.

I'm planning to sell some baby stuff that's higher value as I could do with the money, but will try to donate the other decent bits to a women's refuge.

Alternatively put a small cost on it, people are weirdly less likely to mess about if an item actually costs something

That's absolutely true. I always put £10 on things I'd be happy to give away for free - it saves being messed about.

It's so hard to give to a women's refuge or a homeless shelter. I've been trying to find a way to do both.

Thought about the womans shelter but can't seem to get in touch with them. Ive sat in the past two days waiting for a lady to pick up a 3 in 1 travel system complete with bag raincover etc. I tried to get £30 gor it on marketplace.....
Kept reducing the price then thought bugger it just give it away on the free sites. Cant belive the nerve..... ive had to do all the chasing and when i say im passing it on to rhe next person she throws a strop!!! God give me strenght

Say first to collect and give your address

No, don’t give your address.

AIBU to think a simple thank you text the next day is too much to ask for

If they thanked you on collection then yes, sorry. But well done for doing good deeds.

There's not many charity shops near me

British Heart Foundation do free collections:

www.bhf.org.uk/shop/donating-goods/free-collection-of-clothes-books-and-more

Could you contact your health visitor and ask whether she can think of anyone who'd appreciate some things?

I second the women's refuge. You're unable to drop off as they can't give the address. I just googled the name of a local ( ish) one and they arranged to collect.

Don't waste your time giving away, sell.

Don't waste your time waiting for people, if possible, leave the (cheap) items at your door, don't waste your time waiting for them to collect.

Babies clothes don't sell, but some schools collect clothes to raise funds, so you can always ask on a local group.

You can also sell on ebay but collection only - better paying a small fee than not getting anything at all.

I sold my last travel system for £500, when I advertised it locally, some CF were trying to sell me a sob story or offering £50 for it!

People are unbelievably cheeky and untitled.

Local refuge, BHF, contact your food bank as they often link in with other local services where they can be put to good use.

I've had the opposite problem, seeing something on FB marketplace and messaging asking if it's available/can I buy and just get ignored or it takes days to reply!

Women’s refuge.

People take the piss when it’s free. I try and help a local homeless shelter and deal with their staff rather than recipients directly. Although I will deliver to recipients. I find that way the people who really need it are the ones who have approved approached the charity.

If I'm giving it away I specify in the advert that people are only to request it if able to collect today by 6pm or Sunday or whatever suits me.

Stop trying to make it fair you want it gone! So the winner is the one who can collect soonest. If I get people saying they want it I message them asking when they can collect. I might message that to more than one person. The one who is quick to respond and able to collect when suits me gets it. Don't give your address until you've had a few messages back and forth checking they're responding. Don't agree to keep it until Saturday or when they are next visiting their sister or back from holiday! Just move onto someone else.

I will certainly go down the womans refuge way to next time. And no i rarely get a thank you at the door
Ive had kids sent out of the car and come to the door the parent at the wheel pointing at them as in to indicate yes its for me
Maybe a small wave or whatever from the car but thats it. The site encourages a thank you on the fb page with maybe the child wearing the clothes or using item like pram.... toy.... jumparoo etc. Ive given away in excess of 20 different items and had one thank you in that time. Awwwh well, least im doing my bit. I would be too scared to leave anything in the garden.... not the best area and the weathers awful.

Yeh. Im being too flexible. Will set a certain time frame on the next item. Not there to make friends!!!! You wouldnt belive the people who complain to the site admin when they dont get what they want! Ridiculous

I’ve emailed lots of refuges, not one has got back to me

I completely agree OP. I find even a small cost doesn’t help

I hate this. People are awful.

Fortunately I do have several charity shops near me so I give everything away to save relying on people.

If there is something that I have to advertise (e.g. some spare skirting board that we had), I go by the messages people send to me.
There's a very clear pattern - people with good grammar/spelling, people who say "Hello" in messages, people who have sensible profile pictures, and people who live in naice areas are more likely to turn up than those who don't do these things.

It's horribly judgemental and inherently classist but I don't give a shit - I need stuff out of my house and I want to make sure people are going to show up!

I tend to just put everything in the corner of my road (though nobody knows it’s close to the house) and put up a post saying, it’s there, first to come will get it. If it sits longer than a day or two oi it goes.