Pregnant again

[Kell3]

Im not sure if this is in the right place. I just need some advice. I have a daughter from a previous relationship she is 10 due to go to high school in September. Met new partner when she was around 2 years old. We have been married now for five years but been together for 9 years. We tried for years to get pregnant and suffered 2 miscarriages along the way. We finally decided to give up trying 2 years ago. Last November i found out that i was pregnant and now have a beautiful 3 month old. So here's my aibu. Yesterday I found out im pregnant again. 7 weeks. I dont know what to do aibu to have another baby so soon after. There will only be 10.5 months between. Will it take attention off the baby i have now? How do people cope with to young babies?
Thanks in advance for any advice.

Not unreasonable at all. It will be hard work I’m sure having 2 so close together it equally they will hopefully entertain each other so whilst initially hard, hopefully after a while easier than having just one. You will adjust.

The question is do you and your DH want another?

I have a 13 month age gap (5m and 18m). It's a bit tricky at times but there was no jealousy when DD arrived. I think an important thing is that if you intend to return to work, you need to pay double the childcare. I love having them so close. I will be able to take both to the same activities for a long time. They both nap at similar times, and go down at night half hour apart. I don't think my first suffered at all from lack of attention.

Physically, I think it'll take a while to feel like 'me ' again after 2 pregnancies and a csection. Part of that is probably because I am nearly 40.

Congratulations

How do you and your DH feel about it?
My friend has children (DD & DS) 13 months apart. They're teenagers now and are very close - very protective of each other so I think that's a positive (although there's no guarantees regardless of age gap with siblings!). I'm sure you're aware it's not gonna be easy but I think totally doable. Obviously there's the expense to factor in as your baby that will be 10 months will still be in a cot, a highchair, car seat etc so you'll need to buy double but if that's not an issue then that's good. I wish you well

We are both really unsure. We keep seesawing between we can cope and we wont be able to do it. Thanks for your replys

16 months between mine. Best thing I ever did. No issues with youngest detracting from eldest. They are both adorable but different.