Pregnant again

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Kell3 · 29/10/2019 10:19

Im not sure if this is in the right place. I just need some advice. I have a daughter from a previous relationship she is 10 due to go to high school in September. Met new partner when she was around 2 years old. We have been married now for five years but been together for 9 years. We tried for years to get pregnant and suffered 2 miscarriages along the way. We finally decided to give up trying 2 years ago. Last November i found out that i was pregnant and now have a beautiful 3 month old. So here's my aibu. Yesterday I found out im pregnant again. 7 weeks. I dont know what to do aibu to have another baby so soon after. There will only be 10.5 months between. Will it take attention off the baby i have now? How do people cope with to young babies?
Thanks in advance for any advice.

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dontcallmeduck · 29/10/2019 10:43

Not unreasonable at all. It will be hard work I’m sure having 2 so close together it equally they will hopefully entertain each other so whilst initially hard, hopefully after a while easier than having just one. You will adjust.

The question is do you and your DH want another?

Allyo19 · 29/10/2019 10:48

I have a 13 month age gap (5m and 18m). It's a bit tricky at times but there was no jealousy when DD arrived. I think an important thing is that if you intend to return to work, you need to pay double the childcare. I love having them so close. I will be able to take both to the same activities for a long time. They both nap at similar times, and go down at night half hour apart. I don't think my first suffered at all from lack of attention.

Physically, I think it'll take a while to feel like 'me ' again after 2 pregnancies and a csection. Part of that is probably because I am nearly 40.

Congratulations

Livebythecoast · 29/10/2019 10:49

How do you and your DH feel about it?
My friend has children (DD & DS) 13 months apart. They're teenagers now and are very close - very protective of each other so I think that's a positive (although there's no guarantees regardless of age gap with siblings!). I'm sure you're aware it's not gonna be easy but I think totally doable. Obviously there's the expense to factor in as your baby that will be 10 months will still be in a cot, a highchair, car seat etc so you'll need to buy double but if that's not an issue then that's good. I wish you well

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Kell3 · 29/10/2019 11:36

We are both really unsure. We keep seesawing between we can cope and we wont be able to do it. Thanks for your replys

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BlueSuffragette · 29/10/2019 11:50

16 months between mine. Best thing I ever did. No issues with youngest detracting from eldest. They are both adorable but different.

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