To buy DS (4) a pink bike?

[coffeeforone]

We want to buy DS (almost 4) a bike for Christmas which he is very excited about. He said he wants a pink one and keeps talking about it. His favourite colour is pink but he also likes green.

Problem is I don't like pink, never have!
Ideally I'd like to get a better quality bike, that his younger brother can use in a couple of years. Not sure I want to spend to much on a 'less neutral' colour so we will probably end up getting a cheaper pink one that we can pass on quickly which is not ideal.

My mum and dad are buying him matching accessories, helmet etc and and have also asked me to try to steer him away from pink!
His friend has a green one and he occasionally comments that he also likes that one, then goes back to pink!

So DH and I have agreed either
a) a cheapish pink one and DS2 can choose his own first bike later
b) a better quality green one that can possibly be used for his sibling

WWYD?

I love the spotty too Laurie. I’m 5’5” and I can ride my DCs Frog comfortably and it isn’t even the largest wheel size.

I know you’ve found a solution, but if similar comes up again just ask ‘would I buy this if he was a girl?’. If the answer is no, eg the pink option is of less quality or looks awful or it needs to be a hand me down, then don’t. Easy test

Pleased you feel The Bike Club is a good solution to your problem Coffee. I have found them very pleasant to deal with so far. DD has the bright pink frog bike and loves it (I would have preferred the spotty one ).

Phonic i love the bike lights you recommended. Have been struggling for ideas for DD for Christmas. A couple of these will be added to the list.

I don't think it's particularly fair to buy your son a gift, with his younger brother's needs in mind so much. It's HIS first bike, let him have the colour HE wants.

I disagree--second born kids always end up with their sibling's hand-me-downs, which is fine, but must occasionally feel a bit frustrating. I think it's reasonable to take the younger sib's (probable) feelings into account, to make things a bit fairer.

Agree with other posters, pick a neutral color and suggest some pink accessories instead. A bike is a big investment, unlike a t-shirt etc.

I wonder if the pink thing is a red herring. Lots of people buy red items so they can hand them down to siblings of different sexes. The question is - if he was a girl would you buy him the pink he wanted or still buy him a more colour that both children would be ok about using. There is nothing wrong with being practical and getting him a bike both children will use.

You are being massively sexist and unreasonable. I promise you you wouldnt be putting this much thought in if he were a girl. Get a big grip please. Get a good quality pink bike and then if sibling hates pink then you can spray paint it a different colour .

Anyway for centuries pink was considered a macho colour only suitable for boys, and blue a very feminine girlish colour. They only switched round in the last century.

Bollocks. Pink and blue had limited/ambiguous gender significance until the 20th centurythey were never "the other way round"this is an urban legend.

The rules we abide by (blue for boys and pink for girls) appeared in books from 1880 onward, becoming more common over time, but the opposite rules (pink for boys and blue for girls) didn't turn up in the book search at all.

"Pink seems to have been a feminine color at least since the late 19th century," Del Guidice wrote in an email. "In summary, when inspected closely, the reversal in pink-blue gender coding shows many warning signs of a scientific 'urban legend,' an urban legend that somehow managed to infiltrate the peer-reviewed literature."

www.livescience.com/22037-pink-girls-blue-boys.html

You are being massively sexist and unreasonable. I promise you you wouldnt be putting this much thought in if he were a girl.

@user1573334 what part of my post is massively sexist or suggests I wouldn't be doing the same if he were a girl. I would have thought just as hard, poster and hopefully had the same recommendations for a successful solution!

You are being massively sexist and unreasonable. I promise you you wouldnt be putting this much thought in if he were a girl. Get a big grip please. Get a good quality pink bike and then if sibling hates pink then you can spray paint it a different colour

What a ridiculous post. Actually, a lot of people wouldn't buy a pink bike for an older sister, either, for the same reason. And who on earth wants to (potentially) put themselves through the mess and hassle of spray painting a bike, for goodness' sake? The average family with small kids has enough on their plate already.