Please do not copy this post anywhere else! Name changed as well. Don’t want anyone guessing who I am.
A bit of an odd one which I will try and explain as simply as possible
My grandparents aren’t rich but they are certainly comfortable and are very generous with all their grandchildren and great grandchildren (my DC). I would never expect them to spend as much n my DC but they do which is nice. I think they feel very lucky to have great grandchildren and like to spoil them. I am grateful. They are also very kind and gift me about £100 each Christmas.
Now.. my mum believes that my grandparents should spend less on me and more on my two younger siblings as they are younger and not yet parents. She also believes that she spend more on them than her great grandchildren.
Her reasoning is that my Dc also get presents off my in laws and also my eldest has a different dad to youngest so he gets gifts off them too. But my younger siblings should get more as they have no other extended family (mum is estranged from her mother in law) and my Dc have gifts off both their grandparents and great grandparents that my siblings should get more from my grandparents? If any of this makes any sense..
She also kicks off when my grandparents spend money on my cousin as she believes because he has ‘two families’ (my uncle is split with his mother) he shouldn’t get so much off grandparents.
Aibu to think it really doesn’t work like this? grandparents should spend equal amounts on the grandkids despite the amount of family that they have.
Like I said, I don’t expect my grandparents to be so generous but they enjoy doing so and treat us equally so that’s up to them?