What age to buy Xmas presents

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I'm of the opinion that unless they are coming to Xmas or we see them a lot then when the extended family (nephews nieces, god children) turn 18 or start working then that's a good cut off point for Xmas presents.

Also when do the younger members start buying presents for the rest of the family? My DN 25 earns £40+ and doesn't buy any presents even for his younger cousins. I wouldn't say anything he's a lovely person but I think there comes a time when he has to join in.

What are your thoughts

I would expect adult kids to buy for their parents and siblings if that was the norm in the house but apart from grandparents if they were close I wouldn't expect them to.buy for anyone else. The whole present thing has gone mad.
Why on earth would you buy for cousins or any other extended family?
Of course if they didnt want to exchange gifts thats ok too (just dont expect any from.anyone else)

I think 18 or perhaps 21 is a nice cut off age for presents. I wouldn't expect youngsters to buy presents for aunts/cousin's etc.

Cut off at 18 in our family. None of my cousins buy presents for me or each other, (except for their siblings obviously), and I don't buy for them. I don't buy for any aunts or uncles and they don't buy for me. I would be flabbergasted if any of my cousins bought my dad a present. Two of them are exceptionally wealthy, so it isn't lack of funds!
We send christmas cards but no pressies which is the way I prefer it. A wee nod to show we remember each other at Christmas, but no useless tat exchange !

DH has one auntie he buys for, but she is single and childless and is very close to DH's family. She is my MIL's sister and she is like an extra mum in some ways.

Once working, young adults start buying for the younger generation. So nieces and nephews and such. But not for members of their same generation who just happen to be younger.

Oh yes, of course we buy for nieces and nephews. But not younger cousins.

18 or 21 ... and unless you know their taste, money or a generic gift voucher rather than choosing a present may be best bet.

I’m 21 I buy for my DH, DD, parents, siblings, grandparents, godsons, 1 aunt I’m close to and her 3 kids the rest of my family I don’t talk to or see very often as I moved to London and only kept in touch with family I was quite close to and those few who come and stay with me. I’ve been doing my own Christmas shopping since I was 15, but my parents gave me the money to buy it all.

In my family we stop buying for nephews and nieces once they teach 18. Teens and young adults who are working normally but for their parents/ grandparents, but not cousins/ aunties/ uncles. My brother and I don't buy for each other, just the DC.

With friends, we all stopped buying from each other a couple of years ago, we have a night out instead. I hate buying for the sake of it, it's such a waste.

We don’t have a cut off, we still buy for adult nieces and nephews.

We started Independently buying for aunts & uncles & grandparents in our teens. We’ve never given cousins gifts or vice versa.

Godchildren just carry on as they’re still our godchildren regardless of their age. Friends children we stop at 18 ish.

In our family we buy for our parents and grandparents and nieces and nephews until the age of 18. We stopped buying for friends dc at 18 too. I do remember having a row with dh about when we should stop buying and when I pointed out that the 18 year old actually earned more than I did, he did kind of agree. All the buying has to stop somewhere.

We do buy for dh sister and her husband and my bro and wife. Neither have any dc, Although sil is pg so by next Christmas we will be buying for baby rather than them.

I wouldn’t expect my adult nieces and nephews to buy for their cousins (my dc) though, that seems a bit weird tbh. I’d expect them to be either having a good time or saving for their future (or hopefully both) rather than buying my dc more tat that they don’t really need.

Cousins never buy presents for each other in our family. For nieces/nephews etc. I also think 18 is fair. Certainly not later than that.

I have never bought for my cousins. Why do they need so much extra tat they will never use? No need in my opinion. I buy for parents, siblings and their partners. When they have children I will by for them too.

My cousins buy for my children (they really, really shouldn't but for dd1 as she's now an adult, but they still include her). None of them have had children themselves yet though, and I would expect them to stop buying for my kids once there are nephews and nieces around.

I buy for any children of the family. So nieces and nephews, but also 2 of my cousins who are still children (the generations got tangled a while ago, so I'm almost as old as my aunt, and her children are younger than my children). I don't think I could see children at Christmas and not give them a gift of some sort (we do like edible/consumable gifts though, so try to avoid just tat)