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To think Instagram is no place to post pics of your toddler in her first pair of knickers

17 replies

Antler728 · 27/10/2019 20:11

Friend of a friend has posted a photo of 2 packets of knickers and 1 of her DD wearing a pair. I just despair. On what planet does anyone think that’s worthy of showing people? That 2 year old is one day going to be a teenager who might not want a photo of herself in her underwear on social media. I get it, your kids out of nappies but that’s of no interest to anyone other than the parents and possibly grandparents so send a picture to nan and grandad, if you must.

I’ve deleted my Instagram account. I don’t have Facebook, that went a few years ago. It’s just utter nonsense.

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WhenISnappedAndFarted · 27/10/2019 20:15

YANBU. I can't believe some of the information/pictures I see people sharing about their children on social media.

WorraLiberty · 27/10/2019 20:16

To be fair, there'll be teenagers everywhere in years to come who are angry with their parents for not respecting their privacy and plastering FB and Instagram with their photos.

But as long as the parents get the likes and love hearts, many don't really seem to care.

BlueMoon1103 · 27/10/2019 20:18

The child was covered and not showing anything ‘private’ so personally I don’t see the problem. My parents had a picture of my sat on a potty on the wall when I lived at home and the only comments we got were ‘how cute’. I never minded, I was only about 18 months in the picture. Also I’m happy to share other peoples’ pride in their children, don’t like, keep scrolling...

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Antler728 · 27/10/2019 20:21

Why is a child wearing knickers something to be proud of though? I feel like everyone’s going mad and I’m the only sane person left.

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spice3 · 27/10/2019 20:23

Agree with @BlueMoon1103

BlueMoon1103 · 27/10/2019 20:27

@Antler728 because their child is potty training which is a massive developmental and personal milestone? bit obvious really. I think you are the ‘only one left’ but not sure about the ‘sane’ bit!

Babybel90 · 27/10/2019 20:33

I’ve seen worse on Instagram and I despair, in this house the rules are fully clothed, happy, dignity in tact and only if you would be happy to have the same picture of you posted.

Headinthedrawer · 27/10/2019 20:37

YANBU.

Lazypuppy · 27/10/2019 20:47

@Antler728

Why is a child wearing knickers something to be proud of though?

Cause its a huge milestone for a child! I don't get a picture on Instagram, but surely you can understand why a parent is proud

RasberryR0ulade · 27/10/2019 21:03

How does @Bluemoon1103 know the child seen on @Antler728 insta was The child was covered and not showing anything ‘private’ so personally I don’t see the problem

Have you outed someone, or missed the " If " ?

HelloGeeniee · 27/10/2019 21:03

It’s a bit odd and I wouldn’t post it personally but just scroll past if you don’t like it. And unfollow?

Celebelly · 27/10/2019 21:09

Have you outed someone, or missed the " If " ?

Well presumably knickers cover one's private parts or they would be fairly pointless! I imagine that poster has just assumed that her knickers are doing what knickers do.

ethelfleda · 27/10/2019 21:10

Fucking hell- I’ve heard it all now.

Chocolatelover45 · 27/10/2019 21:14

Weird that parents do this. It's different to having a picture on the wall at home obviously. At home only a few people can see it and can't send it on to anyone else. I don't think parents should put any photos online until their child is old enough to consent (13 years minimum).

leomama81 · 28/10/2019 10:36

Yes it's obviously completely different to have a picture on the wall in your own house to publishing (yes publishing) something on the internet where it is then in the public domain. Anyone can do anything they like with images on the internet, repost them, make a meme out of them, use them in an article or blog, or of course there are also some dodgy people out there who might like to make a collection of pics of little girls in their knickers.

I don't think people really think these things through properly. Aren't all of us from the analogue age quite glad that our baby pics are restricted to our parents' homes and not plastered around the internet?

bridgetreilly · 28/10/2019 10:55

I would say that underwear is, in fact, private. We do not typically show it to other people and certainly not in public. If you wouldn't take your child out in public in that outfit, don't post pictures of her on the internet in it.

MindatWork · 28/10/2019 11:10

Anyone can do anything they like with images on the internet, repost them, make a meme out of them, use them in an article or blog, or of course there are also some dodgy people out there who might like to make a collection of pics of little girls in their knickers.

Exactly this. A shocking number of people seem blissfully unaware that any photo posted on social media then belongs to that site, and they can pretty much do whatever they want with it. Even if you then take it down it can still be screenshotted etc.

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