to want to ditch my super competitive fb friend?

[hootymcboob]

ARRRRGGGGHHHH! she's driving me crazy!!

she found me on facebook a few months ago and the second she found out i'm an artist she was like 'oooooh! that's what I do too!'. Next she started posting her bloody paintings all over the site trying to drum up more interest than me.

which is daft as i don't post my paintings on fb anyway, and have no desire to harangue my friends till they give me a commission the way she does.

every week or so she's like 'how's the painting going? so glad it's going so well for you! I'm exhibiting on this site, now everyone and his mother wants me to paint them!'

and i don't really care! i just wish she'd shut the hell up about it! it's not like there's a limit on how many paintings can ever be painted and she's in danger of painting them all before i do, is it?!

anyway sorry for the rant. i wonder is she slightly jealous of me, and if so why??? she has a fantastically exciting proper job job, a gorgeous dp, loads of friends, lots of money.... why do i feel like she's trying to steal this from me? how silly of me!

or is this projection? am i actually jealous and threatened by her? and should i ditch her or blank her or put up with her? perhaps the competitive thing would spur me on to achieve more?? thanks for reading.

ditch the bitch

She is not really a friend, she is more of a stalker.

i spose it is stalkery, but then i forgot to say we were at school together a long time ago... so she does kind of know me, sort of.

Chuck her.

I can't abide competitive people.

me neither, expat. i mean life's too short!

You could ignore her. Your emails could be sent back with an out of office autoreply:
HootyMcBoob is busy on a Royal Commission and will be unable to take emails or phonecalls from anyone save for the Queen and Lucien Freud (who is acting as the artist's assistant on this commission). Danian H, Tracey E, Banksy - sorry can't chat - see you in the pub on Friday.

She will turn out to be a hairy knuckled trucker or a 14 year old boy called Dwayne.

Ignore.

Ah, one of the downsides of fb! ditch her. life is too short and she will never stop!

caroline - lol at lucien freud!! so tempted to do that! only she does have sweet side too...she's not all bad, that's what makes it so difficult.

i think we just have really differing priorities - she's into designer labels and flash cars and what people think of her in a big way. and i suppose i'm just not.

She sounds delightful . It does not sound as though you have much in common. Perhaps if you try to treat her as a professional acquaintance, going way back, rather than a friend, you may not feel so frustrated by her. She sounds deeply insecure and unhappy, perhaps you could be brutally honest with her and ask her why she behaves as she does? Worth a shot perhaps?

maybe one day if i'm feeling brave!

hootymcboob (loving your name btw!)

I have a 'friend' from school who is just like that. Every time I see her she has to make a big deal about the qualification she is working towards, and her accountancy job, and her 'extravagant' wedding (her words not mine!)

I'm like, well done. I'm glad for you. She still doesn't get it. Your friend won't either. It is definitely jealousy. Perhaps she always say you as a bit of an arch-rival?!?!

With these mental bonkers competitive types the best thing is to not enter into their games at all. It infuriates them.

Dreadful girl I used to work with made a beeline for me at some drinks and then went into a monologue about how well she was doign in her new job, how she was on a fast track and was seen as a "star". I just nodded and said how nice I am enjoying looking after the baby. She didnt know how to respond.

lady s - that's exactly it, i am pleased for her, i wish her the best in life. but that's as far as it goes - as i see it there's such a gulf between our personalities and our lives that even if i wanted to compete with her it would be pointless.

as for the arch-rival thing, maybe. we were good at the same things at school. although we came at them from two totally different angles. i was into beat poetry, indie music and andy warhol, (not that i grew up in the 60's, it was the mid 90's!) whereas she was much more conservative in her tastes. and still is.

very puzzling.

kerala i know just what you mean - don't even get me started on the baby vs work thing! perhaps even more telling than the art stuff is that after finding out i had a lo she started on and on about ttc and how broody she is. of course she'll combine having a lo with continuing to jet set! i'm like course you will, good luck with that!