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AIBU to force DH to take son back to football next week after poo in a bush incident.

27 replies

EmbarrassedMum1 · 27/10/2019 13:05

DS (4) goes to football every Sunday, absolutely loves it and his football has come on so much since he started. DH has always taken him and enjoys spending those few hours with him.

Until today, DH popped off to the toilet while DS was well into training (small groups, lots of coaches so perfectly safe to leave him for a minute.

Well DH came back to DS saying his bottom was covered in poo and he'd wet himself, kiddo had only gone and took a poo in a bush at the side of the pitch and tried to "shake it" because there was no toilet paper in the bush... (He looked for DH but was obviously the worst possible time for DH to be in the loo)

Well DH just picked our son up and rushed home, now he doesn't want to go back again ever. DS isn't bothered and wants to go back, I said he's probably not the first kid to take a dump in a bush.

DH thinks we've failed as parents and we must never go back. AIBU to say he should take him back?

OP posts:
recrudescence · 27/10/2019 13:08

Your husband needs to get over himself.

Babysharkisanearworm · 27/10/2019 13:10

Crikey. It happens, get over it. If ds is cool with it then keep going!

Tableclothing · 27/10/2019 13:10

He's 4, not 14. YANBU.

Whichoneofyoudidthat · 27/10/2019 13:19

Yanbu.. it will all be forgotten by next week. Probably no one noticed anyway.

Charley1988 · 27/10/2019 13:24

I agree with all of the above - just be matter of fact about it if someone mentions it - I admire your DS attitude about wanting to go back. ❤️

Charley1988 · 27/10/2019 13:26

I've done much more embarrassing things than poo in a bush at age of 4 Grin

ThisIsSamhain · 27/10/2019 13:27

He's 4.

This is not an issue.

Pinkypurple35 · 27/10/2019 13:27

Lol there’s been many incidents of pooping in bushes at my DS football as often they’re in a field with no loos. Your DH is being ridiculous saying he’s not going back.

Stayawayfromitsmouth · 27/10/2019 13:29

Well I think some further toilet training may be required with ds. Ie to let the coaches know he needs a poo/the toilet and not to do it in a bush. Has your dh always been a wet lettuce?

snowbear66 · 27/10/2019 13:32

He should definitely take him back.
He's 4 and it won't be the last embarrassing incident he has to face.

Italiangreyhound · 27/10/2019 13:39

"DH thinks we've failed as parents and we must never go back. AIBU to say he should take him back?"

Of course you have not failed as parents, he is 4!! Not 40. For goodness sake if your DH doesn't take him back this will say it is a big deal (it is NOT a big deal). My son at 5 had a toileting issue and we got pooeey pants home from school. Did I just stop taking him to school? Of course not.

Please tell you husband he is in danger of giving his kid an issue where none is needed. He needs to make sure he fully toileted before a match and be there for the boy, and check in occasionally if son needs a loo, and not make an issue of it.

Italiangreyhound · 27/10/2019 13:40

Oh and I have IBS so I have had loads of embarrassing toilet things but luckily I have covered my tracks, so to speak. If this continues go to the bladder and bowel specialist via your GP but either way it is not an 'issue' worthy of destroying a hobby for a young lad!

DisplayPurposesOnly · 27/10/2019 13:42

How far away was this toilet for your husband to only pop away for a minute, yet your son didn't know to go to it too? (I realise he's only 4.)

Drabarni · 27/10/2019 13:42

Well not taking him back will be failing him as a parent, because the child wants to go back and enjoys football.
Your dh needs to get over himself.

ChristaMSieland · 27/10/2019 13:43

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Italiangreyhound · 27/10/2019 13:46

If your son does have any condition like hard poos and back up, (where poo gets compacted, like my son had) he could be getting mixed signals as to when he needs to go. Just so you know we have Pediatric Laxido once a day for ds and it helps. This is on prescription, and only if he needs it. My son is, thankfully, not ashamed or embarrassed about past poo-incidents, just as it should be.

Italiangreyhound · 27/10/2019 13:47

It's called something like overspill, where the poo gets compacted and hard, and they hold it in, it hurts to poo, and then overspills. But it must have a more technical name and it may not be the case for your ds. I am not a doctor, I am mum to a boy who had it!

arethereanyleftatall · 27/10/2019 13:51

Bit odd that the coach of the small group didn't notice.

HeddaGarbled · 27/10/2019 13:54

Don’t argue about it today - give him a bit of time to get over his mortification 😃

mamandematribu · 27/10/2019 13:56

😂 just tell dh to laugh about it.kids do these things. Of course ah should go back to football training with ds

SummerHouse · 27/10/2019 13:56

Similar thing happened to Gary Lineker. Would have been a shame if he had decided not to go back....

Ellie56 · 27/10/2019 13:59

Grin Grin at your DH. This is a complete non issue. Your DH needs to get over himself before he makes it into an issue.

Bluerussian · 27/10/2019 13:59

i doubt anyone noticed.

Tell your husband to get over it, your son is only 4. Bless him.

Unless your son regularly wants to poo at an odd time I wouldn't worry about him. everyone has variations.

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WaningGibbous · 27/10/2019 14:08

The only reasonable excuse would have been if your DH had pooped in the bush.

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