Am I being over sensitive?

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FIL was taking the piss out of my name choice for my daughter saying it rhymes with many common words and she will end up being picked on for her name.

I would never dream of assuming my daughter will get bullied. He said kids can be hurtful and that he's thinking of his granddaughter.

He said he is struggling to comes to terms with her name still because of that and that's it's old fashioned. DP said I am over sensitive. I cried last night because of this and have been second guessing her name ever since.

I don't think her name is even bad, I thought it is beautiful. Her name will be Mabel.

Just tell him to shut up. Honestly, a grown man can't come to terms with a name FGS. Mable is a lovely new btw

FIL is obviously an arsehole, but it's DH that's your problem here. What did he do or say whilst all this was going on?

This is why you shouldn’t tell anyone a name choice until the child is here and it’s official.

I had to think what Mabel rhymed with and finally a few things came to mind, NONE OF THEM TERRIBLE.

Honestly, what a stupid bloody reason to take issue with a name. None of the words I came up with terrible or likely to incite bullying.

Mabel is a beautiful, classic name. I work in a school and cannot see any reason why a child would be bullied for having that name. Your FIL is being an arse and your DH should have supported you. Do not go changing your lovely name choice over this!

No advice but Mabel is a lovely name!

I love Mabel! I'm also struggling to think of anything negative it rhymes with....

@bluebeck he said I was being over sensitive and that everyone gets called names growing up

@Butchyrestingface @EyeDrops table, label, fable were some of his choices

Was listening to a song in the car the other day and was asking DD15 who it was as sounded fab.

She told me it was someone called Mabel. . I said I hadn't heard the name in years and how lovely it was!
Ignore him OP!

Gable and sable also came to mind, OP.

But realistically, who's gonna run after your kid in the playground shouting "Mabel the table!"? It's NOT gonna happen.

Your FiL may have done this to other kids when he was a child, but clearly he's a weirdo.

You’re not over sensitive he’s a twat. Mabel is lovely, don’t listen to him.

This is why you shouldn't tell anyone the name until the baby is born. Everyone will have a comment to make.

My father did this, kept saying a no longer common nickname would be what it's shortened to, trying to put us off it. I just ended up (politely) telling him to shut up.

Since she arrived he kept going on about the nickname that was used, even saying it's a dog name, it's stopped now I told him again (less politely than before) shut up.

From my experience of children, they tend not to think of these associations themselves, adults teach them. I would definitely nip it in the bud. You can politely mention that you have thought about the concerns he's mentioned but this will be her name so he needs to accept that and move on.

Also you have a husband problem he should support you especially if you’re upset enough to cry about

Mabel the Fable? She sounds like a legend already!

He’s being ridiculous, plenty of names rhyme with something or other. It’s a lovely name.

Love the name Mabel , tell your FIL to get lost!

Just wanted to say: Mabel is a beautiful name!

Thank you everyone for saying it's a lovely name. I absolutely love traditional names and I'm glad you all agree

It's the name of my late grandmother and I think it's lovely

There is a popular young singer atm called Mabel! Love the name

Does he also have a problem with Ben, Kate, Max, Anne?