To not want to live on the same street as DP's ex?

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DP and I are looking into council housing as this could boost us to getting a deposit for a house while we've got young children.

There's 2 areas we could apply for. One is large (250+ houses) but (I'm not being judgemental when I say it) is a fairly stereotypical council estate area (like the benefits programme on channel 5 - that amount of cliche!)

The second area is a lot smaller, maybe 50 houses, it's a very quiet area with no trouble. We're naturally opting for that one to apply for.

However, DP's ex lives in the 2nd one too. I've made clear that I don't want to live on the same street as her but DP thinks I'm being silly if we're offered one.

I have no problem with her. They have a DC together. I just feel like it gets a bit soap opera to have his ex, his DC with her, + the new partner and their DC on the same street.

am I being ridiculous? would I have to suck it up or am I being reasonable to be a bit uncomfortable with that arrangement?

I'd be overjoyed that all co-parents will be close enough to actually help each other have a decent lifestyle. It would be great that the siblings could play out together even if they don't live in the same house.

Where do you live that you get a choice of council houses just because you want one?
Seriously though, if you and the ex can be civil, it would be fantastic for his children if they were to live so close to him. If I were him I'd be strongly pursuing this option whatever the other choices were.
So yes, would be nice if you could suck it up.

also be thankful you have a choice. Many people are housed hundreds of miles away from family and friends.

No, too close for comfort for me, definitely.

I think that getting on well is more likely when there is some decent distance between you.

Well, you'd be lucky to get a council house at all, wouldn't you? So you just suck it up.

Many families in temporary accommodation. It really doesn't matter

@DelphiniumBlue it's just a choice of areas - can choose to apply for the area I've lived in for 10+ years or vice versa.

I think it'd be lovely to be so close but all the houses in the 2nd area are close (within 10 minutes walk at a very maximum).
I just think living so you can see each other's house (on the same street) when you look out the window is a bit too close-quartered.