To consider a family holiday without DH?

[Pippapotomus]

DH works away from home. In total he is here around 6days in a month. All household and DC related stuff is done solely by me.

This years summer holiday wasn't great, it accumulated in a row at the Eifle tower. It is more work for me with him there. Would it be terrible to book a holiday just the 3dc and me?

No yanbu. Just do it.
You don’t need him there to just spoil things.

Nope, do it!

I'd be considering more than just holidaying without him.

What is stopping you?

The past two holidays I have had without OH. Just me and DD.

Talk to your DH about it.
He may / may not agree to it.
I have been on holiday just me and DC due to DH work commitments. But quite frankly DH always feels left out. DC are not little for long and to us it's family time.

The DC wouldn't be bothered if he didn't come, I think he would be upset though. He likes to pretend happy families, but this weekend for example, he could be home for the first time in a fortnight, but has gone on a stag weekend. DC will see him next Sunday now.

Sorry, why are you staying in this "relationship"?

Think I'd plan a life without him tbh.

I think you have bigger problems than the holiday.

Presumably DH's work is bankrolling your and the children's lives + the holiday.

However all of you have entirely forgotten how to live together and communicate.

So, the DCs don't care if he comes on holiday or not, you are overvaluing the time you have together and want everything to be perfect, he isn't making up time with you if he goes to a stag do, it's all a mess. And if you get divorced - which this is surely heading to - how are you going to manage your life with the DCs financially?

I'd treat this as a wakeup call and try to start communicating as living a long distance relationship, which is essentially what you are doing, is hard.