So as the title says - how do you know a relationship is over when there has been no cheating or abuse, but the spark has gone?
Background - Dh and I have been together 14 years, married 8, got together late teens, now early thirties. One dc (3)
Have been through a lot, grown up together, relationship was great for most of it but since the arrival of DC we seem to be struggling more and more and want different things.
Dh has worked in the same job since leaving school, has had a couple of promotions (is now a team leader level) and works a very manual job that also involves shift work, which is a lot of nights but also a lot of time off. Before dc this worked fine as I got used to picking up most of the stuff round the house and was happy to let him not do much on his days off as he worked hard.
I have moved round jobs a bit, have recently been promoted to a managers role which is significantly harder than I thought but I love it, but does mean longer hours and travelling which makes juggling childcare with dh's shifts interesting. He moans if I am not home for dinner on days when he is not on nights, but if he is on nights, I do all the drop offs and picks ups and bedtimes while he stays in bed for 12 hours a day.
He still goes to football every weekend (which I used to do as well before dc) I don't begrudge him going at all as it gives me time with dc, but he still drinks 8 or 9 pints while out, and then has a hangover the next day so I'm expected to do everything all day.
We have always had different sex drives, but recently mine has dwindled a lot more, possibly hormonal changes but also as I am exhausted. Dh wants hours of sex a night, ever night, I'm happy a couple of times a week and get told that most women would love to be wanted every night and I am ungrateful.
Not really sure what I am after, guess I am just feeling under appreciated and not sure if this is what I want anymore!
Well done if you made it to the end!