Tonight was my cousins engagement party. I had planned to have a few drinks as my mum was driving and MiL was having the kids for a few hours. My cousin is also the relative closest in age to me and I've been up to stay with her in London so it was more social to me than, say, Easter Sunday lunch at grandmas. DP came too and had already had two pints by the time we got there.
He had drank five before the food was served and then started on wine. I had two glasses of wine and then switched to soft drinks.
This is a common theme of nearly all our social occasions, his overindulgence makes me not want to loosen up and makes me feel anxious.
When we got back our Dd had a temperature and was drenched in sweat. She woke up and puked everywhere, dp was looking for the blooming rugby highlights on catch up!
I just feel like I'm always supposed to be the sensible one. It's not a role I've chosen but I have to take that role on otherwise it would be chaos. What is we were both twatted and dd was sick or ds woke up in the night? If it's his family thing I usually drive and I let him stay even if I go on back. He doesn't drive so can't offer that but also never offers to not get so pissed that he can't look after children. What can I do to make him see?