AIBU to be p*ssed off

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Hubby has been invited to a wedding in Brooklyn US (we live in London, UK) two weeks after I'm due to give birth, in about 4 weeks time. He was actually thinking of going. Apart from the fact we can't afford it and I would potentially be left with a brand newborn and other DD to deal with on my own, plus I have numerous long term health issues I am always dealing with. AIBU to be really annoyed he was even thinking about it??

There are a lot of "D"H twats on these threads tonight.

YANBU. I would tell him to jog on too.

Nope not ok to THINK about going either because this means he never considered the Op POV at all and what the consequences would be for her.
From her DH, I think it’s shit he has so little ‘awareness’

This should have been sorted by now surely, if it’s only in four weeks time?

My DH has a job which takes him away a lot. I plan without him frankly and rope people in when something unexpected happens. That includes a couple of A&E emergencies and someone to look after me for 2 weeks. So it’s not that unreasonable but more about eco tationd.

If you can’t afford it though that’s the end of it really.

It is fine to think about something. If I get invited anywhere I would think about going too. And then I would weigh up the pros and cons realistically.

You can't control some one else's thoughts!

Is he going or was he just thinking about it? Whose wedding is it?

I wouldn’t be happy with this at all and it doesn’t phase me at all having a newborn with other kids as I have 3 kids (youngest just 3 months). Births are unpredictable what happens if you or baby need extra medical care and are kept in? Me and my 2nd baby were in for 8 days as I had a lot of stiches and he needed scbu care. My 3rd pregnancy baby was delivered via c section as he was breach so I struggled to lift or do hoovering etc for a couple of weeks. You have no idea what’s going to happen so he needs to stay here with you as planned. He isn’t going to work it’s simply a jolly he can’t go to as his family need him and you can’t afford it.

...and what if you go overdue?!

YANBU

How seriously was he thinking of going? I just ask because I’m the sort of person who always considers something, no matter how ridiculous it actually is. For example, I might get invited to something in a different country which is completely impossible to go to logistically. But I will still research flights in the vague hope that there will be something at exactly the right times that costs £20! Of course there never is, and I don’t go, but I suppose you could say that I considered it. Maybe this what your DH was doing?

YWNBU to get quite angry if he insisted on going under the circumstances. Thinking of it? Well it depends on whether he just said in a dreamy way, 'It would be really nice to go there, wouldn't it?' or whether he got into an argument with about it and only gave in grudgingly.

My XH proposed to trot off to someone's funeral (a two-day trip) when DC2 was about five days old (ELCS) - we also had a toddler at the time. My mum told him he wasn't to go. He didn't.

Whose funeral was it hunting? I don’t think it’s necessarily awful to go to a funeral of a close friend or family member IF extra support from family was arranged for while they were away. Aunt Hilda who they hadn’t seen in twenty years, not so much.

What a plonker. I'd be annoyed!!

Yanbu, of course he shouldn't go. The idiot. But the poster who suggested if you have an emergency section you won't be able your the kettle is a bit dramatic. I've had four sections, one emergency and let me tell you when you have other kids there's no option to not get on with things. But he needs to be home with you.