Affairs? Those that have them are you stupid?

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Now, my ex who I detested anyway had an affair so off he trotted many years ago and my god did I wish that woman all the luck in the world and said prayers to god that she had saved me (seriously I did)
Now I'm in what I trust is a truly loving, secure and respectful relationship although that has taken me many years to believe after the damage that was done by the fat, ugly piece of crap....
anyway, am I being slightly unreasonable to think that men who have affairs are pissed off with their wives because they go on at them to help out with the kids, around the house etc etc etc
And the woman wonder off because the man she's married to doesn't give a a shit about her well being????
So eventually when these affairs have happened and they're living happily ever after don't they just end up in the same old scenario?

YANBU. Still picking up stinking socks and cleaning skids of the toilet no matter which man it is.

Still picking up stinking socks and cleaning skids of the toilet no matter which man it is.

Not for everyone, no. Pick better men.

I know someone who had an affair. He and the OW said it was because they had found true love; a love that just couldn't be ignored. I know it was actually because he was desperately unhappy in his marriage to the point of self harm. He wanted a way out, he saw it and he took it. It was basically a lot easier than telling his wife he wanted a divorce!

Any on earth are you giving this Any headspace at all? Do you miss him? Seems like you haven’t been able to let go. Maybe deal with that first.

Well there are lots of reasons people have affairs. What I do think is stupid is:

1. That the new woman thinks the guy she’s with is great when he’s had affairs with her and multiple other people. Why wouldn’t they think he could just as easily do it to he?

1. That the ex is always referred to as a “psycho” which is very rarely the case.

I had an affair and it was the best thing I ever did . My ex was an abusive arsehole who had destroyed my confidence over the 20 years I was with him with regular beatings, emotional and financial abuse . I had five children and felt as useless as he made out I was .My affair partner gave me the confidence to leave and 3 years on we are still loved up . I'd never cheat on my partner as I have so much love and respect for him , he built my confidence up so much , I have a great job and my children all teenagers btw love this man as he treats them so well
I can't believe I've been so lucky

I don't give a shit

Thanks for that thoughtful insight, Perkypink.

Well we don't have to wonder why @perkypink 's SO had an affair... do we?

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