My birthday/wifework

[MinnieMountain]

We're travelling back from a week away- me, DH, MIL and DS. DH has just told MIL he has bought her a Christmas present she asked for this week from EBay.
Fine. Except I know he's not yet asked MIL to babysit for my birthday in a month which I also asked him to do this week.
I do 90% of the organising at home, which I don't mind on the whole as I'm with DS more and work fewer hours. And I'm naturally more of an organiser/planner.
AIBU to think he could just do this one thing for me?

What do the two things have to do with each other? He bought her a present probably wants her to know so no one else buys it, if it's something she said she wants. Yes he should organise some childcare for your birthday.

I am struggling to see the relevance between telling her he's brought her a Christmas gift & asking to babysit for your birthday?

Just ask him if he's sorted the childcare for your birthday yet.

How do these things relate to each other?

I’m not sure how the two are linked either.

It sounds like you’re generally annoyed at him and looking for another reason to be pissed off.

Addressing how things are normally sounds your best course of action.

I understand the relevance of the two “jobs” - it’s a bit galling that he has sorted Christmas for his mum which is two months away but doesn’t appear to have sorted his own wife’s birthday which is coming up first.

Don’t stew on it OP, just ask him if he has sorted childcare. If he says no, try a simple “can you please do that now so I can relax about it?”

You are travelling together? So presumably you all get on ok? Why not just say to her, 'oh MIL, did DH get round to asking you if you could babysit for my birthday?'. Makes a nice PA point that it was meant to be his job, and also gets the question asked.

Another one confused about how the two relate OP? Are you saying you resent that he is making some sort of effort for her for xmas when your birthday is before that and he is doing nothing for you?

Can you not ask your MIL to babysit? Or is there more to this?

The relevance of the two is that all three of us have been together for a week, both were discussed during the week but he only dealt with the Christmas one.

MIL and I get on well, it's more that DH knows I sometimes feel arkward asking her for things.

The PA comment wouldn't work on her.

Anyway, I was venting. MIL has gone, I've explained to DH I was upset and he's sorted the babysitting. Apparently she bugged him more than me

And no, I'm not looking for an excuse to be annoyed at DH. The mental load stuff is a regular bone of contention in our house, that's all.