I’ve been with my bf for a year. We don’t live together. He has a young dd of his own. He shared custody 50/50 with his ex.
His ex is a moron. She’s always moving goalposts, puts her dp first, letting him berate the dd, won’t spend a penny on their dd with regards to clothes and outings but will buy themselves a new tv and other luxuries. She also contacts my bf constantly. The last us being on a weekend break which she knew we were and she was demanding my bf ring his parents to organise for her to drop their dd off for a few hours while she did some shopping. She has a good relationship with his parents so could’ve done all this herself. In the evening while we were having a very lovely dinner out she also tried to ring ten times to ask what time he was having their dd the following day. The same time as every week which was reiterated several times to her by bf before we went away. She texts him saying she still has feelings for him which weirdly started when we started seeing each other and is a nightmare tbh.
Everything is always on her terms and I’ve had about enough. Bf and I were supposed to be going out to a lovely place today (a place for adults - dd would get bored) and he had confirmed with her that he would collect the dd this evening for the night. He doesn’t usually have her Saturday night, but his ex wanted to go out. All fine, no probs. She then said late last night that bf needed to have the dd from the morning as she was going out. Bf explained we had an activity booked but would come straight after which would be tea time. She kicked up an almighty stink so thinking of his dd we cancelled our activity. Later last night she then said she didn’t need him to have the dd at all as she had postponed her outing. We tried to book back on our activity but it’s sold out. I am so pissed off. She does things like this for her own entire convenience all the time not thinking about us, you know a little compromise. My bf has got loads better challenging her on things like this and the constant contact but I feel broken by it all. I hate the woman. I’m just about done and am ready to leave bf. His fighting against her and putting my feelings above hers all feels a little too late tbh. Wibu to just walk away or should I appreciate that he is now trying to do the right thing? The one thing is that I feel resentful of him for not sorting it all earlier and I can’t seem to kick that feeling.