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Anyone else feeling very alone tonight?

19 replies

Theendofmyrope · 26/10/2019 01:37

Struggling tonight for some reason. Marriage broke down in July. DD left for uni last month. Not doing so well. Missing my ex for all the wrong reasons which only ever seem to come up at night.

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wereallalone · 26/10/2019 01:49

I feel alone too. The difference is that DH and DC are upstairs sleeping.

Is your DC back for a reading week soon? Maybe that's something to look forward to.

VanyaHargreeves · 26/10/2019 01:50

Handhold

I have long term health issues and it can be very isolating - this last month I have had quite bad depression.

I keep waiting for the light at the end of the tunnel

Thanks
braw · 26/10/2019 01:51

I'm here. Hope you manage to get some sleep OP. Have you got plans to see any friends or family over the weekend? How far away is your DD? Will she visit soon or have you got plans to visit her soon?

caringcarer · 26/10/2019 01:52

Hello, when my marriage broke down as my ex had cheated on me and I found out I was miserable for ages. I kept wondering what I had done wrong to make him do it. Then one day I found out he was cheating on his new partner too and I suddenly thought it was not me it was just him and strangely I felt better. I forced myself to go out again. After 18 months I met someone new and now happily married to him for 14 years. My ex is alone now and I am so glad I found out he cheated on me otherwise I would still be married to him. You will feel better over time but you have to get out and about even if only to walk the dog. Staying in the house all of the time is depressing and will make you feel worse. I never sleep well so just going to go to bed now. Take care.

DramaAlpaca · 26/10/2019 01:52

A handhold from me, too. Night time is always the worst time, isn't it? Flowers

drummydrummer · 26/10/2019 01:56

Yep I am Sad

It’s Shit spending every Friday night on my own.

Piddy68 · 26/10/2019 02:03

I feel you! It's good that you've reached out though but yeah....nighttime when you're sitting there on your own sucks but there are so many here that understand and are here for you....you are not alone. xx

ConfusedAndStressed95 · 26/10/2019 02:31

Yup, feeling low and alone tonight. Majorly fed up so I've taken a couple of sleeping tablets in the hope I nod off before anxiety sets in.

AliceAbsolum · 26/10/2019 02:34

I hear you. I'm having ivf in Cyprus and I'm in loads of pain. DH is snoring his head off beside me and it's 04.35am 😴 urgh.

LeftoverPizza · 26/10/2019 02:36

Yep, single mum to 2 DC, have moved away from our old home and life and completely started again. It’s very lonely.

tiredgirl123 · 26/10/2019 03:38

Hi OP, yes.. very alone, but in this can tell you (small comfort I know) that you are not alone in this feeling.
Youngest at uni, eldest at home but with her BF.
My relationship ended 4 weeks ago so .. just me and the cat , hope you have a better weekend Flowers

Mintjulia · 26/10/2019 03:42

I’m here too. Ds is fast asleep next door but I’ve been single for a couple of years. Good days and bad days.
I hope you get some sleep x

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 26/10/2019 04:16

Yes!
I actually just got off the phone with a wonderful volunteer called Pamela, with the Samaritans, and, quite honestly, she has saved my life.
Lots of stuff came to a head today, and I just felt hopeless, and she was there.
Life is a lot bit shit lately but I think I can persevere a bit longer and keep going.

Stillfunny · 26/10/2019 04:27

Tonight we told our young adult DCs about my DH infidelities.
They were devastated. I hurt so much for them. Traumatic thoughts all over again.
Lying alone in bed , crying for the loss of the future lives we had expected.

over50andfab · 26/10/2019 04:44

It’s bloody difficult. I went through years of a shitty marriage and never ending divorce. However I never lost sight of the fact that there was light at the end of the tunnel.

I coped by trying to be kind to myself, working out in my head why things had happened, talking to friends IRL and those I made on here, getting regular exercise (for me the gym, but it could as well be daily walks) and loads of mindless TV.

I’m still lonely And sad for the past, but things are definitely better than they were, and I am now in control of my life. It can take time, but you’ll get there.

SucculentCandle · 26/10/2019 04:51

Yes, DH away and unreachable - I'm hoping through technical issues..

Igmum · 26/10/2019 04:51

Handhold to all 💐💐

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Theendofmyrope · 26/10/2019 06:09

Some of these are so sad. Its to sort of comforting know that there are others who also feel a bit meh when you assume the rest of the world are all tucked up in bed without a care in the world.

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ConfusedAndStressed95 · 26/10/2019 16:22

@Theendofmyrope, feeling alone makes everything hurt more. When I was at my lowest point about a month ago I cried and cried and reached out to mumsnet and the posters really kept me together and helped me gain some perspective and comforted me and helped me see that everything would fine and it's ok that I wasn't ok. Mumsnet can be just as nasty as the rest of the world but I'm very thankful that most posters are incredibly lovely.

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