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To ask, WWYD if you were Meghan DoS?

9 replies

AdviceForDIL · 25/10/2019 18:21

I know there’s a lot of threads about her but Im asking for a personal reasons i find myself in a very very similar position to her (but milded down due to in laws not being royalty but in their heads they think they are and surroundings respects them as if they are Due t extreme wealth )... and I’m making many blunders in life trying to maintain my marriage and finding it mentally a struggle..

I am wondering if say, you were in Meghan’s position.. same family as hers, same in laws, similar background clashes and similar criticism... what would you do???

I strongly relate and I wonder whether I’m a rare case or is it because her position as a daughter in law is jusT relatable.

Plz don’t be mean it’s not in my head :

1- my father sold me out and didn’t want to come to my wedding as parents are divorced and father is attention seeking
2- in laws are millionaires and think I’m a tramp
3- they were forcing me to live in their “mansion” and I decided to move out and I’m being called “divisive”.
4- I’ve had every bit of my family scrutinised but them

5- I was extremely successful and finding it hard that my identity now revolves around my in laws as if they made me into something and I was nothing before. Which is something they’re propagating.

6- my surrounding hails my in laws as perfect heroes and so if ever I had a conflict with them I would have my entire support network go against me... even if it was their fault.. which they know very well and take advantage of.

I’m not trying to compare my life to a princess.. I’m not even a royalist but I’m really thankful for Meghan opening up as it’s giving me words to express my own grief and my DH has finally acknowledged the problem and when he read meghans story on the tabloids he actually came to me and said that he feels I’m in a similar position so can’t be in my head.

Oh yeh, I forgot to say, I lost most of my personal support network because when I turned miserable and suffered they seem to have the attitude that I should be grateful for what I have and are mostly filled with envy because of the wealth I walked into... but deep down I actually had to pay for it with my mental health and happiness and I would give it all up for a happy peaceful simple life...

So what would you do if you had similar circumstances to Meghan??

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gwackywacky · 25/10/2019 18:24

Well I mean what's your question dude? What are your options?

I know what I'd do if I were Meghan and that's have a second child and them divorce and go chill with the kids in new orleans

WorraLiberty · 25/10/2019 18:26

I have no idea what I would do if I had similar circumstances to Meghan but if I had similar circumstances to you, I would've ditched my husband years ago.

You've been living a life of misery and it took a tabloid story to make him realise it?

Seriously??

AdviceForDIL · 25/10/2019 18:29

I know what I'd do if I were Meghan and that's have a second child and them divorce and go chill with the kids in new orleans

Wouldn’t the royal family have custody of her kids? Or is that only if they were direct hiers to the throne?

Also, I feel sorry for DH Harry as it’s not his fault.

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Wildorchidz · 25/10/2019 18:31

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WorraLiberty · 25/10/2019 18:32

Can you please stop bringing Meghan and Harry into this? It's getting very confusing and it's all a bit weird.

If you want advice, I really think you need to drop that from your posts.

If you feel sorry for your DH because it's not his fault, what has he been doing to support you all this time before picking up a tabloid newspaper?

gwackywacky · 25/10/2019 18:32

I think this is a "let's not talk about MM but let's!" thread

ragged · 25/10/2019 18:35

I am not following MM story so I don't understand what she has done that so terribly offended folk & made her so popular as a target of vitriol.

If that is your story, OP

  1. Keep dad at arm's distance & just do polite civil contact
  2. Are ILs actually rude & unpleasant?
  3. Is where you're living nicer? Ignore critics.
  4. Ignore
  5. I don't understand why you gave up your old career
  6. I don't understand that, tbh
  7. If everyone in your life says you're wrong, then maybe you actually are the one being a cowbag.
PortiaCastis · 25/10/2019 18:37

Make a stand against all the bitching online and in the papers as being an arse against one woman seems to be a national pastime

AdviceForDIL · 25/10/2019 18:43

I honestly didn’t have the intention to start a bitching thread :S. I thought since they came out public with their challenges and asked for support then it might be ok to discuss just that.

Anyway seems like I’m opening a can of worms so will ask for this thread to be removed.

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