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Anyone with stories of bringing up a baby when separated from the father and how easy it is to cope with seeing him regularly/emotions running high etc. (esp if you're still in love with him!)? I'm worried about it so some encouraging similar stories would be much appreciated on coping and moving on.

How long have you been separated for

We're not yet but it's inevitable unfortunately

It is exceptionally difficult to start with and very sad.

You will go through a grieving process and you need to allow youself to do that. The realisation that the person you love / loved is really not into you in the same way despite everything is an exceptionally hard fact o accept - but you will.

What you do need to do is set ground rules early on - he will know how you feel and will manipulate your current weakness to his advantage. You will give in when you shouldn't because you do not want to hurt him. Start laying down your armour - it will not be easy but you will manage.

Time is a great healer but it is bloody bloody difficult, emptionally draining and very very lonely. 7 years in now I have a new partner and am happy again. There are still times of sadness but they are less and more controlled.