Rude new postman!

[boble1]

Hi,

I am a stay at home parent. I go out on the school run 8.35 til 8.50 and then 3.05 until 3.45 everyday.

I am home everyday between these times.

We have a new postman.

He asked me to take a parcel for next door. I said no, as we haven't spoken for 12 years. He said she does take parcels for me to which I replied that I have not received any from her and she doesn't take them in as when I've been on the school run and have missed one, there is always a card through the door. He was adamant she does take them, even when I explained that she is so petty that if the bin men leave her wheelie bin on my driveway, she will make the council come back and bring it back onto her driveway.

He then said that as I am never home when he tries to deliver my many parcels [hmmm] could I leave the front porch door unlocked, a window open for him to throw my parcels through or buy some sort of special box for him to leave parcels in, to make things easier for him.

Again, I told him I AM IN EVERYDAY, apart from these school pick up times.

He complained that his bag was heavy with my parcels. I did note he was a young and muscular man.

He said that yesterday he saw we were in, posted letters, came back with the van and we had gone out (half term). I said yes, I had to get new tyres for my car.

What has amused me is that he went back to my neighbour and her son must of been having a lay in and he opened the door for her parcel.

He has made me feel very uncomfortable, I thought he was quite rude. Surely, in this day and age, internet shopping is all the rage?

Was he being a CF and should I complain about him?

Thank you x

I don’t think YABU - my current postie is lovely and I speak to all my neighbours so we all take in for each other. But if really you were just saying “no I’ll not take in for her” then that’s none of his business. He’s probably annoyed because he either has to take it back or try another house.

If you are generally happy to take parcels and have them left with neighbours then I can’t see why he kept pushing you. No need to moan about the volume of post either. Literally his job!

I once had a fed ex delivery guy tell me 3 or 4 times in the space of 5 minutes that I really needed to get a back gate so that parcels could be put out of sight. For reference, the front of my house is very open and there is room for access to the back, but we don’t need it and have chosen not to go to the expense of putting a gate in. I wouldn’t mind, but I was home and he had no need to put the parcel anywhere else. And even if I wasn’t, there are literally 5 houses who’s front doors are approx 10 steps from mine. Or I’d go and collect from the depot. There was no problem 😂😂😂

@MoreCuddlesForMummy

Thank you.

Usually we have lovely posties, always have a chat.

I did tell him that i will not leave a window open as a lady around the corner was burgled while out on the school run, she was out for 25 minutes. She had left the small window open and they managed to open the larger window by putting their arm though.

Also, if I left the porch unlocked, surely a chancer might open it and steal the parcels?

A box wouldn't be safe either for exactly the same reason - there's a lot of stealing atm around here.

He also complained that he had to knock really hard . I hope he hasn't hurt his baby delicate knuckles

I live in a 3 bed semi, so I'm hardly far away from the front door, lol.

My main gripe with him is saying I'm always out.

The only parcel I have missed from RM in months is the one yesterday when I had to get my tyres replaced as one had a split in it and was very dangerous.

I think I'll wait all day at the window next week and jump out on him. I've obviously got nothing better to do than wait for his gracious presence which could be anytime from 9 until 2.30........

I was watching him, staring daggers at him and he flitting from house to house trying to offload next door's parcel.

He went back and her son opened the door!

I hope he had stern words with him too!

You sound like a pain in the arse tbh

Your neighbour sounds bonkers. I’m also amazed the council don’t have better things to do...

Postal workers where I live now drag the post around in a plastic trolley thing so they no longer carry heavy bags, perhaps ask he requests one of these. Parcels are pretty much keeping the RM in business since most companies are now paperless, I very rarely get letters.

YANBU not to take the neighbours parcels in. My postie leaves the parcels in the greenhouse if I’m not in which works well for all.

YANBU he’s claiming your neighbour has taken in heaps of parcels for you and you haven’t seen any. He’s ridiculous and lying to you.

Op and her neighbour both sound like hard work.

@Pedipalppywoowoo Erm, please explain?

@myusernamewastakenbyme How am I hard work? My postman is lying about me. Why should I take a parcel in for my nasty neighbour? I'll give another example - my daughter was 2 and my son was 1. I accidentally locked myself out while putting something in the wheelie bin. Now instead of helping me and 2 crying babies, she phoned her friend to come round and they were laughing at me through her window. Elderly 90 year old neighbours across the road helped me get in again and said her behaviour was disgusting.

Having previously been a postie many years ago I am seeing both sides however only hearing one. Firstly without parcels (Royal Mail's main source of income) the young fit lad wouldn't have a job on the other side they have to deliver for very long periods of time in sometimes horrendous weather however that is the nature of the job and he may have been experiencing one of those days. Most people have the occasional winge about their job however the postie should not have had a go at you to the extent that it has made you feel uncomfortable. The new way of working in RM means posties work in shared vans so I doubt your guy is carrying your parcel for more than 40 mins or thereabouts. I personally don't like the "leave parcel with a neighbour ' option however there is a lot of pressure on them to deliver 1st time. My suggestions....do you have a safe place? (Shed, garage etc) is local collect an option? Do you have any type of CCTV to confirm postie is attempting delivery? Alternatively if you're not in ( and you're not obliged to sit in and wait for him) let the guy leave the card. If RM were to change the pay structure to 'per parcel' rather than salaried then you might find attitudes may change, with the new CEO watch this space.

Overly concerned with your postmans movements, and because of some pretty bullshit argument with your neghbour you watch him try and get rid of this parcel for 40 min rather than simply sign and take it in = hard work

You’re entitled to go out when you like and you absolutely don’t have to take in post for a nasty neighbour. It’s not your problem that the neighbour is out. YANBU.

My main problem with him is him saying I am never home - I have major anxiety issues and only go out twice on school run times, I never go out by myself as have slight agoraphobic issues and have to walk to the school with other people. The school is one minute away.

I know for a fact that a van drops and waits for him 200 yards up the road.

Why would I take a parcel in for next door when she gets a friend round to laugh at me when Ive locked myself out and have 2 screaming upset babies locked in the house? Even when I have my food delivered and the van is parked slightly over her driveway, she will go out or get her husband to drive around the block just so the food delivery man has to move. Getting the dustbin men to come back and move the bin as they have left it on my driveway by mistake?

Her son was home but was being lazy and not answering the door.

I have only missed one parcel in months when I had to replace a split tyre on my car.