I've had enough I can't take any more, I have 2 step daughters 14 and 15 who live with us 50/50 and a son of 13 and a daughter of 16.
My 2 step daughters hate me, particularly the younger one, I don't know what I've done no one does, she won't tell anyone or doesn't seem to know why herself. Then she posted this awful video of her miming to a song, basically saying screw you, fuck you with a caption saying step mum on it. My son goes to the same school and everyone has seen it, everyone asking questions about it. The video also insinuated her sister felt the same. She was at her mums when she posted this so my dh couldn't speak to her at first. Dh did manage to speak to her and have a long chat, told her she had to apologise, his mum, her nan said the same they are all disgusted. Now though she is refusing to go to school because of the backlash though she did speak to her close friend at school, said she didn't want to go back to that school, she wanted to move schools and she didn't want to live with us, then started talking about who's side she's on hers or my sons. This is obviously upsetting for my ds too, he has had to deal with it all at school and it's not nice for him to know I'm hated or my dd for that matter.
Then my other step daughter started to be moody around me, didn't mention the video she's probably embarrassed and doesn't know what to say I know that, but when she's seen me upset she just stares through me, won't even speak to me, whatever the reason this all makes me feel worse and dh can't understand that
Dh thinks I should rise above it all and honour our wedding vows in thick or thin. He thinks it's ok to have no relationship with them in the same house as me. I think I am coming in between their relationship, for whatever reason they don't like me is it fair he should loose his dds cos of me, I think I should move out and give them some space. Also I can't live feeling completely worthless. I mean I've known my step daughters for 7 years there's been ups and downs but I thought I had a good relationship with them at one time anyway. I mean in August we were all on holiday everything was fine I thought, before we went I bought her loads of clothes she seemed so happy with them, she was ill on holiday I was the one making sure she was ok walking to the pharmacy 30 mins away amongst many many other things. I know she's a teenager and she's obviously got issues, but what about me and my feelings, I have my own dcs to think about who don't want to move out btw but they don't want an unhappy mummy either. Would it be unreasonable to move out?