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To be annoyed with my housemates

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ConfusedAndStressed95 · 24/10/2019 23:13

First off my housemate and I are good friends, but shes very emotionally immature and needy. I'm usually fine with that because I'm busy enough she can't monopolize my time and belongings. But she is very much one of those people who are very controlling and moody behind closed doors but who are seen as sweet and innocent outside.

So far this week she has complained that I have my PS4 in my room and she can't watch DVD's in the lounge because she doesn't want to pay for a DVD player. Fair enough but I like gaming in my room and I want to use my things how I want to use them. That I don't bake for her when I refused to let her eat an entire batch of cookies because I'd baked them for a specific event. She'd already eaten seven or so. That I'm not being fair when I won't let her help herself to my food in the fridge because it looks nice because it's expensive. That tonight I've baked a cake and won't let her cut into it the second it's out the oven and she'll have to wait until tomorrow when I've iced it because I've friends coming over for coffee and board games. That I won't leave my room unlocked so she can borrow my things at will, I'm a private person and I have no desire to allow people access to my room when I'm not around.
She has also told me that if I go on holiday with mutual friends without her she'll never forgive me. Sure it would be a shitty thing to exclude someone from something they'd enjoy but if she can't take time off or afford it the rest of us are still going to go. Plus if it's something she won't enjoy I really don't see how there is any issue whatsoever. I know I personally would not care.
She can be hard work but she can be equally good fun and I get through these issues by reminding myself that she's naturally a jealous person and has her own issues that say more about her than they do me. Plus this time next year I won't be living with her. Plus I'm sure that others may find living with me equally difficult, albeit for different reasons.

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hammeringinmyhead · 25/10/2019 17:26

As someone else said, she's got things skewed in her head as if the food in the fridge and clean house are magically there like when she lived at home, and you're the older sibling getting special treatment. What does she say if you say you had to earn the money then go and buy the food - so why does she think it's hers?!

ConfusedAndStressed95 · 26/10/2019 00:06

@hammeringinmyhead, she seems to think that because I get PIP and Universal Credit its fine if I'm out of pocket. She wasn't impressed when she asked if I'd be able to get extra antihistamines on my prescription for her because I don't have to pay for them and I told her there was no chance. I think that thats what she thinks our relationship is and it really shouldn't be like that. Thankfully I've good boundaries but I don't know how to reset the relationship in her mind.

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areyouafraidofthedark · 26/10/2019 00:14

You need to put her in her place every time she's a CF.

ConfusedAndStressed95 · 26/10/2019 01:04

@areyouafraidofthedark, I do or at least I try to. My friend who was over today called her out about cheating at the card game we were playing and she started crying so everyone other than my friend and myself said to leave her alone. Its often like living with a two year old.

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