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Original poster

To want to give my neighbour a mouthful for leaving her dog barking again after we’ve made her aware twice?!

52 replies

Auramigraine · 24/10/2019 12:49

Basically as the title says

Put up with dog barking when she was going work, spoke to her and she promised she would sort it...... didn’t so then I put a note through the door asking she move the dog away from our wall, this was months ago and it stopped.

Now a few weeks ago it’s started again, not left as long but when she’s going out for an hour or so at a time, it’s driving me insane!!! Can’t wait to move.

Thoughts?

OP posts:
Flynnshine · 24/10/2019 12:51

I don't blame you OP. It is the worst kind of torture!
Good luck!

Lolwhat · 24/10/2019 12:54

Not sure how you think an owner can stop a dog barking

DancingDella · 24/10/2019 12:55

We moved because of this. It's horrendous and you have my every sympathy.

Original poster
Auramigraine · 24/10/2019 12:55

@Lolwhat

Funny she’s managed it for months now whilst she’s gone to work.......
And if my neighbour had made me aware twice I wouldn’t then decide they must have gone deaf and start it again.

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Sooverthemill · 24/10/2019 12:55

Speak to your neighbour and say it's still a problem for you and potentially anyone who moves in after you. The neighbour may not realise the dog is still barking. Leaving a radio on, curtains drawn etc may help. And a special toy for only when neighbour is out too

WomensRightsAreContraversial · 24/10/2019 12:57

How did she stop it last time, do you know?

Original poster
Auramigraine · 24/10/2019 12:57

I think she moved the dog into a bedroom that’s not joined to us.

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madcatladyforever · 24/10/2019 12:58

I didn't buy a bungalow recently because ofor the dog next door barking the entire time I was there. The thought of putting up with that day after day!!

littlepaddypaws · 24/10/2019 13:00

if i was looking at a property and next doors dog was barking constantly during the viewing, i'd ask the seller about it and if they were cagey i wouldn't buy tbh.

Original poster
Auramigraine · 24/10/2019 13:00

I’m renting at the moment so luckily don’t have to worry about selling

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WomensRightsAreContraversial · 24/10/2019 13:02

Is the bedroom joined to somebody else - ie could she have got a complaint from somebody who got it worse from that side?

Not that it helps you any :/

Original poster
Auramigraine · 24/10/2019 13:03

No she’s not joined at the other side so can’t be that

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BentNeckLady · 24/10/2019 13:04

*Lolwhat

Not sure how you think an owner can stop a dog barking*

It’s called being a decent dog owner and training it!

mytinyfiredancers · 24/10/2019 13:08

Constant barking is torturous. We used to live in a terraced house and new people moved next door with a very old dog. No dogs allowed on lease!

The poor old pooch was scared to death every time they left the house. She was a veterinary nurse who should have know better to leave a terrified dog alone all day long.

It barked, literally, all day. It was cruel. Luckily I worked 9-5 then and they got home at 6 so only usually had an hour of it. However they had a week where they weren't around on evenings and it went on from the second I got home at just gone 5 until they got back at 10. I was raging. Third night I flew out of the house the minute I saw their car pulling up and lost my shit.

They didn't do much, and a week later the husband had a go at me outside because they'd been reported to their letting agent and someone had also called the police. His face was a picture when I told him (honestly!) it wasn't me (I wouldn't call the police for a barking dog!) so they must have been annoying the shit out of other people too.

Ive no idea if they stopped it because we moved shorty afterwards. Lucky for us we sold to a chap who was a landlord and didn't actually view the house himself before he bought it!

OP I would report to everyone you can (not the police!) . Constantly approach them about it. You're being constantly annoyed so bloody well let them feel the same. Selfish arses.

HauntedPinecone · 24/10/2019 13:12

Not sure what good you think will come of giving your neighbour a mouthful? Other than you might feel better for 10 seconds.

A dog barking constantly is awful, and I sympathise. However, you need to deal with it by reporting it to all the relevant authorities. Ring your local council and ask their advice as to your next step.

thatmustbenigelwiththebrie · 24/10/2019 13:18

Out neighbour has a very barky dog. To be honest I have just learned to tune it out now.

Original poster
Auramigraine · 24/10/2019 13:24

Any tips on tuning it out?

Yes I know giving a mouthful will only temporary give me satisfaction, but each time we have been polite about it to keep things friendly.

maybe I should blast dog barking noises every time I go out so they can see what it’s like 🤷‍♀️

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SmileCheese · 24/10/2019 13:28

Oh you are absolutely not being unreasonable. Our old neighbours used to have a dog that would bark continuously every time it was left alone. I used to cynically joke that it should be used as a form of torture to get people to confess to crimes as it really does wear you down over time.

I would go out and discuss with her when you see her arrive back about reverting to what ever solution she had been previously using. Although I totally sympathise about wanting to ell at her. In all honesty though if a dog cannot be left at home without baring she should be looking at some kind of pet sitting service. Its not fair on your or the dog Sad.

Idontwanttotalk · 24/10/2019 13:35

YABU to want to give your neighbour a mouthful for leaving her dog barking again even if you’ve made her aware twice. What's the point of that? It's just childish and doesnt resolve the problem.

The neighbour may not be aware that the dog is barking again. When did you last speak to them about it?

There is no good moaning about this. The best thing to do is to chat to the NDN and see if you can find out why the dog is barking. Is it purely because it can hear sound from your home? Is there a glass door where the dog can see people going past?

The dog will be barking partly because it can hear noise in your home because dogs have more sensitive hearing than humans so it feels like it is protecting its own territory. (Actually, the dog barking when it hears noises will actually be protecting your property as well as the NDN's from burglary).

Try being friendly and see if you can come up with some options together that the neighbour may not have thought of. Being helpful rather than giving a mouthful is far more likely to make them try and resolve the issue.

Chunkers · 24/10/2019 13:38

Our local council has a dog warden. They would come out and have a word with the owners.

AloeVeraLynn · 24/10/2019 13:41

Yanbu it's a total nuisance for you and it's shit for the poor dog too. Our new neighbours next door but one have a horrible yapper. It just sits in the window yapping all fucking day and they don't seem to give a damn and often they're out for over 12 hours. As a result no one on the street has spoken to them to welcome them. We already hate them!

GreySheep · 24/10/2019 13:44

In an ironic twist I’m currently sitting listening to a dog next door howling and barking. Wouldn’t mind but it doesn’t even live there, just visits and gets left on it’s own scared ffs.

Roussette · 24/10/2019 13:47

Not sure how you think an owner can stop a dog barking

So if you live next door to this you just have to put up with it?

No, sorry, that doesn't cut it for me.

I would not be giving a mouthful, that's not my style but I would be speaking to them and asking them to do whatever it was that worked before.

We had this. NDN had some sort of small terrier that would go in and out of the house through a catflap. It was outside barking for 90% of the day. Continual. Unless I shouted out the window at the dog, and it ran in for 2 minutes then started again. It was horrendous as it was very close to where I worked from home. My nerves were shot to pieces.

I told them how bad it was. No idea what happened, I think they rehomed the dog and she was expecting at the time so maybe it was something they had been thinking of doing.

The relief of silence was overwhelming

penisbeakers · 24/10/2019 13:53

Poor dog. People shouldn't have dogs if they're being left alone for too long. She needs a bollocking.

CallieCat19 · 24/10/2019 14:28

I would politely speak to the neighbour. They’re obviously not making the dog bark to annoy you, people are unaware of what their dog gets up to when they leave the house. The neighbour made the effort to try and fix the situation before, I can’t see why they wouldn’t try to fix the situation again.