Aibu - to wobble

[September2019new]

Hi all

Would be grateful for some advice.

My husband and I have been separated for a number of months now, leading separate lives however living in same house. He refuses to believe it is over despite me stating it clearly.

There are times I wobble and think am I mad? We have two young DC, lead a comfortable life. Nothing major wrong in terms of abuse or anything like that. I'm just so unhappy, there have been hard times he has always been emotionally unavailable and I'm not sure I married him for the right reasons, looking back. But is it enough to walk away?

I was unfaithful to him alot before we married and thought by settling down it would change, but I know I cannot stay faithful to him.

Am I hugely unfair wanting something more fulfilling? Or should I stay for DC comfort?

Need major help

I think you need to split. Doesn't sound like either of you are happy.

You're doing the right thing. And the partner refusing to move out is beyond common. I worked as a legal secretary in matrimonial: It's usually a money/power & control thing tbh, not because they're still in love. They often still want to stay put even when they've met someone else & try to encourage their ex to get somewhere cheap & awful instead of selling up as a fair division of assets.