Asking if he's chatting/seeing other people

[ohwhattodowithmylife]

Thought I would try online dating ( was married for a long time) met a bloke who seems lovely and we have been seeing each other for a few months.

I recently went on dating app to get rid of my profile and saw he was online. Have checked multiple times since and he seems to be online often.

So today I asked him if he is still chatting/seeing anyone else? I asked him in a message. Is this unreasonable?

I feel that it's been eating at me and I just wanted to either clear it up or be able to move on.

He responded that sometimes he gets messages and he is reading them. That he isn't seeing/chatting to anyone else. Also pointed out that he has not asked why I'm on there.

He thinks I don't trust him and that I shouldn't think because one man has been horrid to me all men will be.

My marriage was difficult and he treated me badly. I want to avoid that again.

AIBU to ask why he was on there

Yanbu to ask and he answered, which also isn't U. What I don't especially like is his psychoanalysis of you, saying basically have ishoos and that's why you're suspicious. Bit unfair of him if you really just asked as you said in your OP. You're allowed to ask, but should accept and his answer was also fair enough. It's just the next paragraph would make me .

Weird typos there sorry! Hope it vaguely makes sense.

I think the current trend is it have the 'exclusive' chat then delete profiles...
Not personally but my dd tells me this is how it works!.

Thanks BeatriceThebeast

What concerns you about the next paragraph??

If you have been seeing eachother for a few months and are " boyfriend : girlfriend" the natural progression is to delete dating profiles - often together x

He thinks I don't trust him and that I shouldn't think because one man has been horrid to me all men will be.

This bit seems uncalled for^^. If you simply asked and then accepted his perfectly reasonable answer, there's no need for the "you don't trust me because of your ex" bit. It was just a normal conversation imo.

Different if you'd been accusatory in your message, but it doesn't seem that way from your OP.

Thank you Beatricethe beast. I thought that is what you might be saying. I also agree.