Not sure If I'm being unreasonable as I finally plucked up the courage to have a chat with my partner and it was met with the usual defiant hostility.
He has been building a summer house, although it's more of a garden room in structure, since he bought the house in the Spring. Our three children and I didn't move in until September to be in line with school year changes.
What is annoying me is we are a large family of teens down to tots and yet my partner thinks it's perfectly fine to choose an early shift at work every day so he can come home and head straight out to his man project until darkness falls.
It makes no financial sense for me to work so he thinks I should do all the house work, including decorating and unpacking his many boxes of stuff. I have no income and so I have to accept he shops daily for food which frustrates me to no end as it means I can't plan meals.
Sometimes I ask him if he will look after the children so I can get some of the more involved household tasks done uninterrupted- and effectively I have to negotiate with him as it interferes with his summer housr/garden room escapades.
He says I am unbelievably ungrateful as it's something we will all benefit from. I disagree completely as there's a whole house that needs renovating. If I have any money at all it's always allocated to something as there's no spare, but there always seems to be funds for all manner of building materials.
I usually spend the school hours being useful but today I am under a blanket watching telly feeling a bit miffed. So, am I being unreasonable? My partner certainly thinks so and all but harrumphed back into the office when he called me on a break and I mentioned I couldn't have the toddler while I took one of the older ones to a class tonight.