To ask you to me that you regretting staying so long

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Ohidontknow99 · 21/10/2019 21:08

I’ve been in an unhappy relationship for so long we have a toddler which is making me feel massively guilty about ending things but I don’t think I can carry on like this , please give me a kick up the arse

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hormonesorDHbeingadick · 21/10/2019 21:10

What do you want your life to be like next Christmas? What do you want your toddler to learn from you about relationships?

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Ohidontknow99 · 21/10/2019 21:10

Title was meant to read “to ask you to tell me about regretting staying” I am not drinking honest

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BertieBotts · 21/10/2019 21:12

I wish I had left before DS1 was born. It's been so much better since we left. Been ten years this December :)

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Ohidontknow99 · 21/10/2019 21:13

@hormonesorDHbeingadick Good food for thought I want to be happy next Christmas for once , xmas always heightens how unhappy I am currently past few years

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Ohidontknow99 · 21/10/2019 21:14

@BertieBotts that’s what I wish too , how old were the children when you separated and how long did it take to feel “normal”

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Gretais · 21/10/2019 21:16

Mine was 18 months and im defo happier. I was getting depressed being in a failing relationship

BertieBotts · 21/10/2019 21:57

DS was just 1. About the age DS2 is now. I'll be honest it took a while, I had to learn how to feel emotions again which was really weird! But I was happier and felt more free immediately.

Ambidexte · 21/10/2019 22:06

Not separated myself.

But my parents separated and my sister and I really, really wish they'd separated years before they did.

Your DC is a reason for leaving, not a reason for staying.

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