How on earth do you cope?

[Deathlyhallows28]

Sorry if this message seems abit jumpy and long my heads all over the place.

My partner took an overdose 3 nights ago, he woke up and regretted it, he was happy to be alive. He called 111 and they sent paramedics out to him. They ended up taking him in to see what damage they've done. Luckily nothing. I felt so angry towards him especially as people are now involved as he did it whilst my daughter was in the house.

Previously to this he was signed of work for a month for mental health but is due to return today. He won't tell his bosses or mom what he's done and expects me to deal with what he's done. As he doesn't want his mom stressing over this.
But even after this the crisis team don't seem concerned saying they'll call in the week. He's had no phone calls to check on him or anything. It's as though they don't care, or as he's male it's not as urgent.

The same day he took an over dose my Nan was admitted into hospital for breathing difficulties. My aunties are ringing me to ask me to go and join my other auntie whose in bits. Problem is partner is at one local hospital and nan is at the other.
I found this out stood in the middle of Asda. (At this point I want to cry and give up) (luckily they're both out on the same day).
Then a week before this I found out my uncle has cancer. Hopefully once cut out he'll be fine. But none the less still a worry.
It still gets better this morning my daughter accidentally smashed a glass in the living room just before I needed to start the school run. So cleaned up the best I could and hoovered when I got home.
The bathroom also flooded this morning before this due to the shower head not being put back (my fault DD didn't want to be washed so rinsed her hair and left it down.) with water coming through the ceiling. It's stopped now so need to leave it to dry and see what's what.

I have a daughter who struggles and may have ASD and ADHD. She got suspended on Monday as she wouldn't calm down. She kicked me, hit me, bit me and was climbing the walls to get to a window.

I'm on anti depressants as I have depression. But this is all taking its toll on me. I have no idea who I can speak to about this.

How do you cope or bounce back from this 🤦🏻‍♀️

Hi there,
Just read your thread and although I have no wise words of wisdom, just want to say, that it sounds like you have had a really bad run of events all compounding together to make you feel totally overwhelmed. Life is a twat like that....
I hope someone else will be along to help further down the message board, but sending some supportive vibes your way

OK OP first you sit down with a cuppa and just be still for a bit.Then you make a list and prioritize what is the most important thing for you to achieve today.My suggestion given what you said would be a meeting with school to try and get your daughter back there.That will be one less thing to think about.Secondly you cannot be everywhere and be everything to everyone.Who needs you most? This is going to sound awful and i am sorry I dont want to upset you further but you need to get some perspective here or you will just go under...So Nan is in hospital
she is ok she has support from other aunt so you can cross her off for now you dont need to be there...Uncle has cancer theres not a lot you can do about that sadly...so you can ring see how things are you dont need to be there....phone calls to see who they are will suffice.Now your partner he is presumably going nowhere for a while after this episode so let him be for a while too...he is safe for now and you are there.So todays jobs make the house safe get the kids to help you clean up the flood...give them jobs to do to keep them occupied. Now the very most important thing you can do is today..look after you.Are you eating properly? Have you had a shower? if so then thats good cos you so need to look after yourself not only for you but for everyone else. Then ring Aunt to check in on nan if shes fine thats ok ...ring uncle just to say you are thinking of him.Then turn off the phone. Too much all messing with your head is not good for YOU, You then need to think if you could benefit from some outside support.I think you could.Its not a faliure of yours its help when you need it.I would ring the gps make an appointment to see if your own medication is working properly as it should and discuss your concerns with him/her. I know people run a mile from social services and I have no clue why..they can be amazingly helpful in periods of stress and upheavel and crisis at times like these.They might be able to suggest ways to help you your partner and your kids.They know all the shortcuts to getting help that we don;t ..and they will be on your side and the side of your family if you reach out.Even if it is only to push assessments of your daughter and liase with school.They are good at that kind of thing and it could be really helpful in getting you some help and it sounds like you do need someone on your side right now They might even be able to push through things with the crisis team for your partner.What you are doing by asking for help is taking control,,being strong and wanting the best for your family..no one will think badly of you for reaching out. You cope by asking for help.You cope by saying no sorry I cant come but I am on the end of the phone if you want to talk..you cope by dealing with what you can and looking after you. You cope by realizing you are as important as anyone else and you are ......best wishes sent