To find it hard to be happy/content

[dayslikethese1]

This is going to sound weird and ungrateful.

I have struggled for quite a while now with feeling really low. I hate going to work even though there's nothing wrong with my job. I have a great partner, I have a house which I'd always wanted etc. but I just can't seem to be content and I don't know what's wrong with me.

I often think there's no point to life and I'm just kind of marking time. It feels like all the fun parts of my life are over. I have been to counselling twice over the years, I went last year when I felt really bad and it helped for a bit. It actually helps me to let go of the pressure of being happy and just accept that my personality is not that in a way. I know that sounds weird. Sometimes I have periods of being happy, just seems not for a long time now. But there's nothing really wrong, it just seems mad tbh and I feel really frustrated with myself. I do make efforts to see friends, I work FT and I volunteer etc. so I don't just sit around dwelling on it but it goes round and round inside my head.

I am interested to see if anybody else ever feels like this and how you cope with it. I am sort of hoping it will pass or kind of fade as it has for periods in the past. Please tell me I'm not insane and not the only one. I am finding it hard to focus on work atm as I feel completely apathetic and I am worried I'll get in trouble at some point.

Yes , for a few years I felt like this , did have a few losses of family members during that time but I came to believe it was just how I was , I went to the doc about something unrelated and she recognized that I was depressed I let everything out in her office , she put me on antidepressants something I never saw myself doing I am currently coming off them after 1 year , I feel so much more able to just be happy and content now that I feel I no longer need them , I wish I did it sooner

know how you feel op dh and i are going to down size jan 2021, the 4 remaining adult dc are moving out 0ct 2020 [ there were 6] and it's not going to happen soon enough.
6 adults in a 3 bed house is stressful for all concerned and as dh and i have mh issues it's not helping. it's like living in a commune, selfishly i just need space and privacy.

I feel like this all the time. I actively try to find things to stop feeling like life is a waste but it's really hard- I don't know what the answer is but I am never satisfied!

I do the same fluffy, I do loads of stuff to try and stave off the feeling but it keeps coming back. My DM always used to say that I had existential angst even as a child I don't think I'm very good at being an adult tbh. Thanks for the replies paddy and member, it's nice to know I'm not the only one; sometimes it seems like everyone else is so much more positive and together but of course we only see the surface really.

Not that I'm happy people are unhappy, just nice to share I mean (just realised how that sounded!)

I'm exactly the same. Nothing is ever "wrong" but despite having a lovely home, great husband who I adore, dream job, brilliant kids I feel like I just go through the motions. A lot of mine is seasonal and during the summer it's not so bad but today at home with the toddler it's a whole big "seriously? What's the point?" today. Feels like I'm always chasing something even if don't know exactly what that is.

cheese I relate so much to what you just said, 'going through the motions' describes it exactly and not knowing what I'm looking for exactly. And I'm better in summer too I think. People often suggest things like get a different job or retrain etc. but the truth is I feel the same regardless of my job (and I have a good job so better to have the security etc. than not and at least I can enjoy some of my free time).

I could literally have written this post, I'm currently off work, have had my medication dose increased & am going to spend this time concentrating on myself.
I've signed up to Jay Shettys habits for happiness via FB and am hoping this is going to help.

I saw a sticker in a car window today while out shopping "Its Okay not to feel okay!" This made me think .Lots of the time we are so busy ,and it is difficult not to think everyone else is having a great time!

Have a look on YouTube for videos on mindfulness. Think about attending a course (there are online courses if you can’t get to one). It really changed my perspective entirely and I could see that my restlessness and low mood had nothing to do with my personality like I thought, or my circumstances. It was all to do with how I thought and felt about myself and my life. I feel so much better, far more contented and I know what to do if I start feeling lost again.

I’m exactly the same. Feel so crap to have to admit that I’m just a ‘low’ person. I used to be bright and bubbly... not sure what happened, maybe I just grew up?

I too have had moments like this, sometimes when there isn't much disposable income and then sometimes when we have had a lot of disposable income and then everything comes too easy! I do try to put things into perspective and that works for me, so, what would it take for you to realise how perfect everything is right now? What would happen and make you wish for this time back? Death or terminal disease of a loved one? Debilitating sickness or injury to yourself? A terrorist attack or tragedy close by to you? It sounds quite macabre but fast forward to a year from now with one of those things having happened, how do you feel? Do you wish you could go back to normality?

Or, less dramatically, think of how much you will miss these years when you're children leave home or you become old and frail and cannot do as much.

May not work for some people but it's certainly helped me realise that life is actually pretty good right now!!