I'm 50 and I'm not sure if being a "real" grownup/adult feels the same to everyone else.
I went to a party with DHs school friends on Saturday. They meet infrequently as they're in their mid 50s and scattered across the country. People talked about their lives and jobs and I listened and questioned but I never feel able to volunteer anything about myself as it always seems so mundane and uninteresting. No-one else was talking about anything exciting just kids, elderly parents, jobs etc but they felt free to discuss small details. I'm not a shy person but I always assume that no-one would be in me or what I'm saying. I even behave like this with my own friends and colleagues.DH says I'm being silly (in a kind way) and I should just join in. I've always felt like this. Just to be clear I have all the trappings of a lovely life/family and a well paid career. I presume other people are all unselfconscious but perhaps not?