In laws morning music sessions

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Currently 8 months pregnant and staying with in laws for a few weeks (not my idea, and had to move out v last minute due to building works- they literally told us 2 days before!) and due to being super huge myself and DH don't fit super well in a double so I only really get to sleep at about 6:30 after he's left to go to work (I've just finished work for mat leave to manage the last bit of this friggin building project!) anyway, the room we are staying in doesn't have a door and FIL likes to blast the 80s tunes from about 8:30/9 and as much as I love an 80s disco it's pretty much impossible to sleep.... ideally would like to be able to sleep in until about 10/11ish to get enough sleep to deal with builders etc (also the last time I can do this ever for about 18 years... first baby!) would it be really arseholey to ask him to hold off on the disco till 10/11?! It's quite annoying!!

Thanks all!

I'm going to go down the ear plug route, and have just ordered a blow up mattress which I'm hoping DH will sleep on!

If both those things fail, I'm going down early to dance dressed as Madonna circa 1984. If anything will make the music stop, that will.

"have just ordered a blow up mattress which I'm hoping DH will sleep on!"

what if he doesn't/refuses?

Why is it OK for you to have disturbed sleep and not him? His job is not more important than your current job.

WTF? You actually tried the camp bed the other night? As in you got into it (at 8 months pregnant) while your 'D'H watched on from the comfort of his double bed? What a wonderful guy he is!

You need to get your priorities straight. You're on maternity leave, not annual leave. You are growing a baby. You need sleep.

And FYI, when baby gets here, you will also need sleep (when you can get it) and he will need to do his fair share of nights, and yes, even if you're breastfeeding - he can burp, and change baby and bring baby back to you then so you don't have to get up out of bed for every single feed every night. I find it so bloody infuriating when I read about these husbands who have such bloody important jobs that they cannot lose a minute of sleep.

Stop being such a bloody martyr OP and get your husband to sleep somewhere else. Your sleep, rat and health is paramount at this time in your life.
Can’t believe he hasn’t suggested letting you have the bed to yourself. Is he oblivious or just a mean fucker?

It's completely reasonable for your dh to sleep on a camp bed/ mattress on the floor given the circumstances.

Jesus just ask for the music to be turned down.
Or I’m a coward and would probably say I’m moving into a hotel because of lack of sleep due to music.

Oh please! I can't believe how hard life must be for you!

You're not working
Getting all day to relax
Your pregnant and huge, obviously bigger than any other expectant mother
You only gave a double bed and every.single.other.mother has at least a king if not super king
Your PIL are hosting you

Life can be really shit sometimes can't it...

I chucked DH out of a double at our in laws when I was six months pregnant (thankfully were able to love out at 7 months). I also chucked him out when I was establishing breastfeeding and he will willingly be chucked out again this pregnancy and this breastfeeding (already agreed he might sleep on a mattress in DD1’s room if she is unsettled). You need that bed, and you may find you need it for longer than anticipated, find a way to discuss this now - being able to have the bed to myself saved breastfeeding for me in the early days.

spanglydangly, you chewed a wasp?

@GPatz just think OP is being totally precious!

Can't sleep on a double bed with her husband as she's eight months pregnant with a single birth....

Oh the drama!

She can't sleep at all until 6.30? Really? I don't think so!

Wow. Did you get out the wrong side of your tiny bed spanglydangly?
I'm 9 months. DH has been in the spare room since 7 months. For both our sanity! I can't turn over without loads of room, Im up 6 times in the night and I snore like a train.
OP make sure your DH knows that he needs to look after you before and afterwards!

Stop telling yourself he needs more sleep, and don't think of it once you've had baby either.

@Howdidido no not at all, she's pregnant it's really not a massive issue!

I'm going down early to dance dressed as Madonna circa 1984

PMSL at the thought of an 8 months pregnant woman singing 'Like A Virgin'

By 8 months I spent more nights on the sofa with dish after dish of Rice Crispies due to heartburn.