AIBU about the lack of RSVPs?

[PottersonDayz]

DH & I eloped a few weeks ago and we're having a wedding reception next month.

On the invitation we requested that all RSVPs are in by tomorrow but half of our guests invited haven't bothered to let us know one way or another.

I gave loads of details to make it easier for everyone, I gave them our email address; home address and mobile telephone number along with our wedding website that has an RSVP option. I even set up a Facebook event page.

We have to confirm numbers for seating; catering etc but I really don't know what to do to try and get people to RSVP.

I have a feeling that they think it's just a normal evening reception but we're incorporating some of the daytime elements such as speeches etc into it so we need to make sure everyone is seated for that too.

It's frustrating, maybe I am BU but this is the first time I've organised a big event.

They are then more likely to make an effort to reply and to attend

Some of the responses here are pretty cruel about you already being married etc

I would just give them a gentle reminder, people are so busy these days I am sure they will be thrilled to celebrate with you xx

Technically, the RSVP date is tomorrow (end of day tomorrow, really), so give people time to do that. If they don't, follow up on Wednesday to confirm because you need final numbers. I often leave things until the day they are due so that I don't have to go back and cancel on someone after I've already RSVPed. Technically, they still have time to be in touch and it would only be after that date that I'd follow up with anyone you haven't heard from. It's normal to get a lot of last minute responses.

Thanks @cultkid, I tend just to ignore cruel remarks.

Actually ended up with quite a few arriving this afternoon and evening - panic over!