AIBU - In wishing to watch a movie in peace when you have paid to go to the cinema.

[Buttybach]

We went to the cinema today to see Maleficent 2. It was amazing if anyone fancies it!
We paid a fair amount as a family as it was an imax showing it was allocated seating and pretty full.

We had 2 women and an older teen behind us. They chatted all the way through the trailers and when the movie started they were making loud comments like "oooh it's him from game of thrones" "wow angelina looks banging" "have you got more sweets" blah blah blah.

The woman behind me then put her feet against the back of my chair and kept moving so it juddered constantly.

Then she dropped something on the floor and leant down to find it...she put her hand on the back of my seat to support herself and in the process she trapped my hair! It bloody hurt! My husband tried to tell her she was doing it but she was bent down for ages looking for F knows what. Her friend saw that my hair was trapped but said bugger all to her. When she sat back in her seat I moved to the other side of my family. It was super obvious why I moved.
They continued to chat all the way through. A few others made shh noises and that did sod all.
I mentioned it to an attendant but no one came to tell them to be quiet.

As we left the beeatch who pulled my hair had the cheek to give me a stinking look! Presumably for moving seats.

AIBU in expecting to not have a movie talked over and to leave the cinema with the same amount of hair that I went in with!

What cinema mares have you encountered?

Other people are the reason I haven't been to the cinema for 6 years! Every time I went there was always someone talking and using their phone.

YANBU sick of twats that prefer the sound of their own inane twaddle to the film.

I feel your pain, I get so wound up when people chat through the cinema or look at their phones etc. If you’re a teen/adult who can’t sit through a couple of hours without talking or looking at your phone then stay at home with Netflix! It’s selfish to not consider your impact on those around you.

www.bbc.co.uk/5live/films/code_of_conduct.pdf

YANBU. Some people can be bloody arseholes in the cinema. Vue actually refunded us our whole cinema trip after a particularly harrowing trip in the summer. I was so bloody cross. I have never been in a cinema with so many noisy people. Hardly heard any of the film.

See, in those situations you have to be direct.

If people near you talk loudly, you ask them to be quiet. Don’t stew or suffer in silence. Just tell them.

If people kick the back of my seat, or put their feet on the back of my seat, I immediately ask them to stop.

If they persist, I tell them that if they don’t stop doing what they are doing, I will go to the foyer, summon the manager and have them removed. That usually works.

As for trapping your hair: unbelievably rude. I’d have loudly and immediately said, “ow, you just pulled my hair” and I’d expect an apology.

It doesn’t do to be too polite with pisstakers like this.

The thing that gets on my nerves is when people have finished watching one film then sneak into another screen to attempt to watch another film. They always do it about half an hour in, and it’s obvious what they are doing. So everybody on the row has to stand up to let the cheeky sods through to wherever the empty seats are. Then they usually change their minds half an hour later, and everybody has to stand up again to let them out.

People here seem to bring multipacks of crisps.

Totally agree, other people are the work of the devil. Was in a restaurant tonight - niceish one, not a high street chain type, bloke came in and spent best part of an hour playing v loud r and b on his fricking phone. Everyone complained, staff spoke to him: he shut it up for mere moments before restarting it. There is a place reserved in hell for all these selfish twats.

I really wish I had the balls to be direct with people. I hate conflict and afterwards kick myself for not pulling on my big girl knickers!
They looked rather mouthy so that really put me off.
My husband did directly try telling her she was on my hair but she ignored him. Her hand was right on it so she definitely knew! She was probably posting some inane shit on FB! Probably one of those passive Aggressive quotes accusing all her friends of being snakes!

Bet she was posting this about some friend on Fb while scalping me!

You're not unreasonable at all.

We went to the theatre in the week, west end show and tickets are expensive. 2 women behind us talked the entire way through the 1st half, both about the show and general conversation. Several people shushed them and I kept turning around looking. In the interval 1 of them said something to me. I asked them to stop talking as we had paid to watch the show not listen to them and got a load of abuse.

You’re not wrong about the crisps @NeedAnExpert.

I sat in front of a family, earlier this year, who ate crisps in shifts. By which I mean, one member would rustle a packet, eat the crisps noisily then screw up the packet noisily, before passing the crisp baton, so to speak, to the next person who did the same thing.

If the family concerned are reading this, eat your bloody crisps at the same time and get it out of the way quickly.

Why do they even sell crinkly packets in Cinemas! This is a definite recent trend!

I used to love the cinema but rarely go now as I can't bear other people chatting away like they're in a bar or munching non stop.

You've got to let an arsehole know when they're being an arsehole. I asked three annoying giggling chatting young ladies at the Joker showing, "Is this really what we're doing today?! Making noise in a CINEMA?! Really??" It shut them up immediately. I think I scared them.

This is why I don't really enjoy going to the cinema or the theatre anymore. People talking, on their phones and eating. Ugh. YANBU.

You are so right. BUT. Last summer I took my DD & seven of her friends to the cinema for a birthday treat.

It’s a long story but I sat across the row from the girls, next to a couple, so from the outside it looked like I was with them. Two women sat in front of us. On their phones & chatting all the way through the beginning of the movie. The guy next to me politely asked them to put their phones away & stop talking. What unfolded was horrific. All the way through the movie they kept turning round stating we ‘would be dead’ after the film. Made slicing actions across their throats at us, got angrier and more aggressive as the movie went on. The guy complained to an usher, who just wasn’t interested. It got really nasty. At the end of the movie the couple next to me disappeared very quickly. I was left escorting 8 girls out of the cinema, with them following me, swearing, shouting and threatening the girls. When we got to the car, I had to wait in it for another parent to arrive, who was helping lift the girls home. During the 10 minutes I had to wait, the women were banging on the car, screaming. Absolutely everybody around us ignored what was going on. I started to call 999, when they eventually ran out of steam & disappeared.

I drove home, shaking, trying to keep everything normal for the girls. It was so horrific I haven’t been to the cinema by myself with kids since.

You just don’t know who the person is that is making the noise or disturbing you. As cowardly as it is, I just don’t think I could call out somebody for their behaviour in a cinema, however awful, for fear of a situation arising, as it did for me last summer.

These type of people are the reason I wait until a film is out for a while and go in the middle of the afternoon, term time. I usually have the place to myself. If I took the kids I would wait a while after release and go straight from picking them up from school.

@Iamthewombat I've had this issue with crisps too. I've been to the odeon in Birmingham twice and both times a large family have come in and shared a 24 pack of crisps. All I could see was the huge sack of crisps being passed down the line of people, then munching the whole way through the film.
They also took zero rubbish with them when they left too

My biggest annoyance is when people keep turning on their phone to check for messages, you're sitting in the dark trying to watch the film and there's a bright glow in front of you. I had a man and a woman sat in front of me once, the man must have been dragged there by his wife against his will because he sat and browsed the Internet throughout the whole film. If you can't put your phone down for two hours stay at home.

@Applepieco wow that sounds harrowing
You never know how people will react when you call them out

YANBU - hell is other people. I never go to the cinema on a Friday or Saturday night or the first week or so of a new release. I had time to kill during the day recently in a city I was visiting and went to the cinema two weekday mornings in a row when there was less than half a dozen people in the cinema. Bliss 😊

I have zero tolerance for bad behaviour in the cinema. I see about 5 films a week, and will get out of my seat to go and tell people to put their phones away or stop talking. I've also got staff involved if they've refused to get off their phones, which will always result in them being told in no uncertain terms that if they don't put their phone away they'll be made to leave. I'd far rather deal with this sort of thing head on than sit through the whole movie with my blood boiling! I must say that in my experience, Cineworld staff are great at dealing with individuals ruining a movie for the masses.

Like a previous poster, I no longer go to the cinema because of the minority of people who do not know how to conduct themselves in a public space.
You can guarantee these same people will be the noisy neighbours we read about on here, the ones driving their cars with loud bass music coming from it, the ones on trains listening to stuff on their phones without earphones.
They are the scum of the earth and should be rounded up and live in a ghetto with others of their ilk. Then the rest of us normal considerate people can live our lives in peace.