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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To put our two boys back into same bedroom?

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Bodminbodmas101 · 20/10/2019 22:32

Two boys age 6 and 8. Our youngest has separation anxiety or should I say general anxiety and possible asd. Eldest is also going through a stage where he struggles to settle at night but both have been fine when on hols and at relatives and sharing. Would we be unreasonable to let them share a bedroom to help them feel more settled at night? Both are keen. I think the benefits in short term are clear. When they’re older I would hope they’d naturally want their own space..what do you think?

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GrumpiestCat · 20/10/2019 22:34

Sounds like the logical solution!

Whitelisbon · 20/10/2019 22:36

If they want to share, and they're going to sleep, then why not?
It won't harm them in any way, and, if it means they're happier, then go for it.

Motherof2Dragons · 20/10/2019 22:36

I agree it sounds sensible - why are you hesitating and putting it out to the jury?

SKMCR · 20/10/2019 22:36

Don't see a problem. Im considering this too as both want to share a room. They can go back toown room when they want

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Bodminbodmas101 · 20/10/2019 22:41

Motherof2Dragons - husband and I agreed tonight that we’d likely do this but I just wanted a sounding board.

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HerRoyalNotness · 20/10/2019 22:42

Sounds fine. My 2 shared a bed until about 3mths ago (12 & 9)Z. We got the youngest a ‘privacy pop’ kind of a tent that fits over his mattress and he now happily sleeps in his own room.

MmeBufo · 20/10/2019 22:45

We did similar at 4 and 6, we put them in bunkbeds in the smaller of the two dc rooms and used the larger as a playroom and toy storage.

It worked really well and they happily moved to separate bedrooms a few years down the line. Go for it!

Redshoeblueshoe · 20/10/2019 22:47

Am I being really stupid ?
Your DSs want to share a room.
You think it's a good idea.
What is your AIBU ?

ThatMuppetShow · 20/10/2019 22:48

As long as they are not winding each other up and sleep better, why on earth wouldn't you put them together if they want to be?

BuffaloCauliflower · 20/10/2019 22:49

They both want to and it sounds like it would benefit everyone - what’s the problem?

noodlenosefraggle · 20/10/2019 22:57

We tried to separate our two boys because we thought at 8 and 11 they were too old, and they said it was unfair that DH and I got to share a room but they had to sleep all by themselves, so they are still sharing

SleepingStandingUp · 20/10/2019 22:59

I don't understand the MN attitude that sharing a room is somehow awful. If they want to share, and will sleep fine, why not?

areyouafraidofthedark · 20/10/2019 23:03

Does the eldest want to share though?

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Bodminbodmas101 · 20/10/2019 23:09

Eldest is fine with it, yes. I was chatting with my husband tonight (dc’s father) and put the idea forward. He was a bit noncommittal about it so I put it to the MN jury

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SleepingStandingUp · 20/10/2019 23:13

But noncommittal about what? The kids want to, they'll sleep, sounds like they need to be together, what is the concern?

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Bodminbodmas101 · 20/10/2019 23:16

No concern. Just asking for opinions

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Bodminbodmas101 · 20/10/2019 23:18

Maybe aibu wasn’t the right topic to post on in hindsight

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DramaAlpaca · 20/10/2019 23:18

My two eldest boys enjoyed sharing a room at that age.

Howmanychildrentoomanychildren · 20/10/2019 23:19

As long as their sleep patterns don't mess with each other then I think all good!
We had to separate eldest 2 even though they wanted to share as one is a night owl and the other an early riser. It was ending up with them both being assholey tired and grumpy so had to be done.

areyouafraidofthedark · 20/10/2019 23:19

I just remember my youngest sister not liking being on her own so I was forced to share a room with her and I hated it. As long as your eldest is ok with it go for it. Beds can always be moved back into separate bedrooms.

SleepingStandingUp · 20/10/2019 23:20

@Bodminbodmas101 not having a go, just confused by the qn.

Frazzled2207 · 20/10/2019 23:21

Mine are similar age and don't have to share but have chosen to do so and love it

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Bodminbodmas101 · 20/10/2019 23:25

@SleepingStandingUp No offence taken

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Leeds2 · 20/10/2019 23:30

My friend had two daughters who shared from an early age (still do, when they are home from university). That is what they wanted to do, and everyone was happy with it. They used the "other" bedroom as a playroom.

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