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Dds in wrong jackets

20 replies

Josephinebettany · 20/10/2019 21:04

Can you help me figure out who is BU?
We have 2 dds 4 and 6. We decided to go to the playground today that had a food market nearby. Realised on the way I had forgotten to bring their coats. It was sunny but cold when we arrived. 9 degrees. I looked around the car and DH had 2 sleeveless jackets in it. I put them on the kids. They were down past their knees. They looked ridiculous but I thought who cares. DH went mad "they can't wear them. They look ridiculous. We'll have to go to the shopping centre and buy them coats". I said that's crazy. They have coats at home and proceeded to walk towards playground. When we got to it he said they can't go in there like that. Everyone will look at them and laugh at them. They'll have to take them off and just go without. I said it's too cold. He then said it was dangerous to be climbing etc with these jackets past their knees. He had a point that it was dangerous but that's not what bothered him. I said I think they'll be ok. I'm not leaving them freezing. He stropped off saying he was going to the food market to see if they sold coats. I rolled my eyes and said ok if u want. He texted me half an hour later saying they didn't have any and would meet me in car. He would have passed by playground on way back to car. So we spent another 20 min in playground and I purposely decided to go to market with the kids to leave him in his strop for longer. The 3 of us had food there then went back to car where he was sitting with a face on him. We've barely spoken for the rest of the day.
I know it's not major but who is BU?
Was I crazy to put the massive jackets on them?
Or was he U to care so much about what others thought of how silly they looked?
I feel like he ruined what could have been a nice family day out. But maybe it was me who ruined it...

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Wildorchidz · 20/10/2019 21:08

Pair of you in it

DappledThings · 20/10/2019 21:10

It was 9 degrees where we were too. DCs were in playground in jumpers and no coats. 9 isnt that cold, especially if they are running about.

Seems like a massive fuss over nothing.

Babymamamama · 20/10/2019 21:13

I can’t work this out. Were these oversized children’s body warmers or did you put your children in adult clothing. Either way I would have popped home to pick up the right jackets once I realised they had been forgotten.

FizzyIce · 20/10/2019 21:17

Why didn’t you just go and get them coats and take them to a park closer to home ?
You both sound over dramatic

sweeneytoddsrazor · 20/10/2019 21:20

Are you sure you are old enough to be parents you sound about 10.

Josephinebettany · 20/10/2019 21:24

I'm laughing at how we're coming across. We're not kids. Both in our 40s! Perhaps we were both unreasonable, childish and stroppy. Point taken 🙂

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Lulualla · 20/10/2019 21:24

9 degrees really isn't that cold when they're running around. Long sleeved tops or jumpers would have been fine. Or had you dressed them on summer clothing.
You both handled this badly. Let them run around for 20 minutes without their coats or go home and get their coats. Don't put them in massive jackets which just end up in the way.

Cambionome · 21/10/2019 18:55

He was being unreasonable. There's nothing wrong with being in slightly odd clothing (assuming they is no danger of tripping over long jackets). He is an absolute twat for trying to buy new coats if they have perfectly good ones at home.

Is he always so worried about what people think?

ThatMuppetShow · 21/10/2019 18:57

why on earth didn't one of you pop back home to grab the missing coats? Confused

HaveeeeYouMetTed · 21/10/2019 18:58

He was being unreasonable. If they kept the kids warm then that's all that really mattered. Nobody would care what they looked like - presuming everyone else is busy with their own children.

BrassTactical · 21/10/2019 19:28

Well they wouldn’t have died without coats but I see absolutely no issue with chucking on a grown up coat so he was being ridiculous.

Oneborneverydecade · 21/10/2019 19:32

YABU for being married to someone who owns sleeveless jackets

PumpkinPie2016 · 21/10/2019 19:44

It sounds like an awful lot of drama over something very minor Halloween Confused

Did they not have jumpers/long sleeves on? If they did and they were going to run around then they would have been ok. Or, could you have gone in the shopping centre and bought two cheap cardigans?

Personally, I wouldn't have put them in adult jackets - apart from looking silly, your husband has a point that it's dangerous to be climbing in oversized clothes.

Both of you need to plan more carefully and ensure you take coats next time.

FlossieTeacakesFurCoat18 · 21/10/2019 19:45

He WBU. Why does he want to teach your kids that it's really important what a bunch of strangers in a supermarket think of you? It could have been a giggle for your family having the kids in huge bodywarmers, instead there's sulking and tension for no good reason 🤷‍♀️

Brakebackcyclebot · 21/10/2019 19:49

He was unreasonable about the coats. But you were being a dick when you deliberately went off to the market & bought food. You becane as unreasonable as him at that point.

A load of fuss about very little and a fabulous example to set your kids Hmm

Pharlapwasthebest · 21/10/2019 20:02

@Oneborneverydecade
How very dare you, my gilet is my favourite coat type itemGrin?

Inthemoment38 · 21/10/2019 20:06

@Oneborneverydecade Grin

PixieDustt · 21/10/2019 20:38

YABU for being married to someone who owns sleeveless jackets

This made me giggle Halloween Grin

Stompythedinosaur · 21/10/2019 20:52

He sounds like a twat who is more interested in how strangers view him that whether his dc were cold.

I'd be really cross if dp was embarrassed to be seen with me or our dc.

We once went round Edinburgh Zoo after having left the dc's coats behind (too far to fetch) with the dc wedged into outgrown coats that were in a charity shop bag in the boot. It didn't ruin our day because neither dp or I made a fuss about it.

TheCanyon · 21/10/2019 21:09

You're not the cinema coatgate couple are you?

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