To feel like this?

[CathyandHeathcliff]

My one year old DS is soooo attached to his Daddy. It’s lovely that they have that bond, but he doesn’t seem so bothered about me!
Maybe I’m just being extra sensitive, but when my DP is around, DS doesn’t want to be with me at all and always has his arms out for his Daddy. He cries if he leaves the room and when Daddy leaves on a work day, he sobs and gets really distressed! Despite me being right there!
Is anyone else having this? Or just me?
It’s been like this for a few months now!

They’ve always had a fantastic bond though. But I always had the breastfeeding bond as I fed up until he was 10 months old...now I’m not feeding him anymore, I feel a bit redundant!

He goes to his dad for everything...cuddles, nap time when he’s sleepy, reassurance when he’s hurt himself...maybe he just prefers him!

He’s a really hands on dad and always has been, so I guess that’s part of it. He did lots of skin to skin with him when he was a newborn and he baths him every evening too and settles him to sleep most nights.

I know I should be grateful, but I’m worried he doesn’t like me! As silly as it sounds.

Anyone?

Bumping for you.

No advice, I don't think you're being unreasonable for feeling like this but I really wouldn't worry. Kids tend to go through phases of who they're more attached to in my experience!

I can understand it being hurtful Op, but this is a very normal age for this. I am quite sure it will flip over to you and away from his dad at some point too.

Try to enjoy the break. I had the same thing in reverse for a while with my daughter and it's actually exhausting always being wanted too! Since then she has switched to dad mode and back many times......

Try not to worry about it too much. Its not personal and its just a phase that will definitely pass. DC 1 never did anything like that. He was always quite attached to both of us and didnt seem to have a 'favourite'.
DC2 was very different. When she was 1 year old she had a daddy phase like you describe and it was terrible. Sometimes she would cry for 30mins when DH left for work in the morning. And as soon as he got home she completely ignored me. It lasted a few months and then went back to normal.
When she was 2 she had a very strong mummy phase and was very clingy to me. It was a lot worse than the daddy phase, because she actually told DH she doesnt like him and cried when he picked her up. It also lasted quite long, i think 6-7months or so.
DH was having such a hard time. But it also changed from 1 day to another and is all back to normal now.